GETTING TRULY COMFORTABLE IN YOUR SKIN?

How to always use your best self.

Georgina Cannon
Sep 4, 2018 · 3 min read

“As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live”
~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe~

What is it that makes people you admire special, charismatic and interesting? How come they have an ease about them that seemingly allows them to handle anything in life with grace? Why don’t they get rattled, mean spirited or revengeful when life doesn’t play fair?

What do they have, or know, that maybe you don’t?

Not everyone you admire had a safe and happy home. Not everyone you know that seems to have it ‘easy’ IS having it easy. The difference is, they’ve chosen not to react to life, but act within it — from their best self. Always, and all-ways.

The secret? They know and live their values. They know who they really are, and what they stand for. Not the public view of who they are, their true character. And they live in their truth. The good, the bad and the ugly. And because they know their truth, nothing and no-one can blindside them. They are truly comfortable in their skin.

This three-step protocol can be a life changer:
Better relationships — you don’t keep repeating the same mistakes
Easier management of life’s emergencies
Much less concern for other’s opinion of you
Clearer vision of your future and how you want to live it.

Simple yet profound. Once you decide to use this, you can never un-know it, and I promise you… your life will change. The world will seem kinder, brighter, easier to live within. And people around you will start to change also… plus your perception of them will be different — even the ‘unlovable’ ones in your family! I know that sounds like a tall order, but if you follow the protocol… you’ll see the difference.

The Protocol:

  1. Make a list of the values you believe in and stand for. Your values are the bedrock on which you stand. They set your boundaries, how you behave in your world and how you interact with people and the planet around you.
    For instance, if honesty or integrity is one of your values, you won’t gossip at work, or feed into family drama narrative when it happens. If kindness or fairness is a value of yours, then you’ll treat everyone the same, whether it be a street person, a boss or yourself.
    Write the list, preferably on paper (it engages the subconscious mind more effectively). You will probably end up with 5–8 key life values that are important to you. Here’s some thoughts that might trigger your own.
    Honesty, Loyalty, Humor, Integrity, Fairness,Health, Nature, Music/Arts, Kindness, Ongoing learning/ education, Security, Generosity, Open minded, Religion/Spirituality, Fun.
    Choose from this list, or make up your own. This is the start of you knowing yourself, and what you stand for — or want to stand for. Your character. Take your time. Make it real — for you.
  2. Go through your list and ask yourself if you live your values. For instance, if Loyalty is one of your values, are you always loyal to yourself. Yes? No?
    If no, put an x next to that value. What about Kindness? Or Fun? Are these values part of how you treat yourself? Look at the list of x’s, and make an action plan to make sure you live what you say you value. What will you have to change? How will you do that? As long as you don’t live your values your boundaries are weak, and you probably keep choosing the wrong people or jobs in life. You’re not being true to you.
  3. Now change happens. With every interaction and choice you make, you will choose from your best self. Knowing who you truly are, comfortable in your skin, creating a life that is kinder, brighter and much more comfortable — because you are choosing how to act, and how to join the tapestry of relationships that create our lives. Living your values and becoming someone who moves through life with ease.

’til soon. Georgina

p.s. want more information on this protocol? Check out my book on Amazon
www.amazon.com/Third-Circle-Protocol-yourself-evolving/dp/1844097102/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1535909586&sr=8-1&keywords=the+third+circle+protocol#reader_1844097102

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Georgina Cannon

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Author, regression therapist and relationship coach with more than 20 years working with clients. Lecturer at the University of Toronto. www.georginacannon.com

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