Has the Quality of your Joy Been Horribly Hijacked?
“They say a person needs just three things to be truly happy in this world: someone to love, something to do, and something to hope for.” ― Tom Bodett
Too often we find ourselves wallowing in negativity and responding to current events instead fighting for the joy that is present around and within us. Contemplating life, a news cycle, an upcoming election, a weekend indulgence, the haves and the have nots, and life in general is enough to steal anyone’s joy, if we let it.
C.S. Lewis says it like this:
“It would seem that Our Lord finds our desires not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased.”
Let’s reframe the quote to say we are often falsely pleased.
In a season of Thanksgiving I ask:
Where is your joy?
Do you know?
Is it in circumstances?
Is it in the moment?
Is it life events?
Is it in abundance?
Is it in trials?
Is it in want of something?
Rejoice always, It can always be worse.
If I look inward I wouldn’t say that rejoicing is always my natural reaction; can you?
Do not be anxious about anything. It seems impossible; right?
- Unsure about your future?
- In failing health?
- Where is your perspective?
Underneath those emotions and worries is commonly a place of fear.
Allow yourself to dig deeper.
Are you afraid of something?
- Not measuring up?
- Being left again?
- Not being accepted?
- Being hurt again?
Fight back with gratitude.
Can you give thanks despite what torments you?
Unexpressed gratitude communicates ingratitude.
Are you grateful for something that needs to be communicated?
We move so fast, get so busy. Sometimes we just don’t think about it.
I invite you to slow down.
Stop long enough to take a deep breath and remember gratitude.
Grateful people are innately peaceful people.
Expressing gratitude improves your mental health, physical health, and relational well-being.
Dr. Robert Emmons conducted a psychological study with people from age 8 to age 80 and found that when they focus on gratitude for just three weeks they improve their overall well-being.
- Stronger immune systems
- Less bothered by aches and pains
- Lower blood pressure
- Exercise more and take better care of their health
- Sleep longer and feel more refreshed upon waking
- Higher levels of positive emotions
- More alert, alive, and awake
- More joy and pleasure
- More optimism and happiness
- More helpful, generous, and compassionate
- More forgiving
- More outgoing
- Feel less lonely and isolated.
Gratitude makes a difference and it matters.
It is deeper than psychology, It effects us to the core of our hearts.
A peace that surpasses our understanding will fill us with gratitude.
Fight with gratitude. This is difficult, but it is worth fighting for.
Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable, — if anything is excellent, think about such things.
Where is your mind?
What are you thinking about?
Are you contemplating gratitude?
There’s plenty of negativity in the world. If you’re in a place of abundance it’s easy to forget there others who are scrounging to eat and find shelter. If you’re in a place of want you may have difficulty being grateful.
Cultivating gratitude isn’t easy.
It’s easy to be grateful for vacations, new cars, houses, jobs, and experiences. Most times we lament the thing that ends instead of being grateful for the experience.
Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.”
― Dr. Seuss
Call to Action
Transform your mind with gratitude in this season of Thanksgiving.
Respond with the weapon of gratitude.
If you aren’t grateful for what you already have, what makes you think you would be happy with more? — Roy T. Bennett
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