How to build your business & replace your income — even when you’re surrounded by naysayers!

Don’t let them stop you — here’s what to do instead

Christine McAlister
Thrive Global
3 min readOct 17, 2018

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Illustration by Andrew Genn

Do you ever have any of these thoughts?

  • My friends think I’m crazy, they still don’t get my business or what I do.
  • Replacing my income would be sooooo much easier if my husband wasn’t so negative about what I’m trying to do.
  • I know I could succeed if my family didn’t drag me down.

You’re not alone, my friend; I’ve been there myself and I hear these very same things from other high-achievers every week.

The laws of physics still apply

Imagine this: You’re standing on top of a table. You’re way up there because you’re different: you want a better life, to replace your income, travel without having to take vacation days, make more than enough to take care yourself and your family, not have to wait for retirement to enjoy your life.

And the people you’re surrounded with in your daily life, those ones who are committed to the status quo, to “playing it safe” as employees, are figuratively either sitting in chairs around the table or down on the ground around you.

Just imagine — is it easier for you to pull them up to where you are, or for them to reach up and pull you down with their negativity? You know the answer because you live it, right? Their “practical” advice drags you down.

It’s easy to spend a lot of time stressing about the fact that our spouse or significant other are not supportive, and sometimes we even use it as an excuse, like, “If I only had someone who really believed in my dream, I could do this.”

But that keeps us stuck exactly where we are.

It’s not their fault — it’s your choice

I don’t care what your situation, whether it’s that you have 1 negative voice in your life or 100 — you can STILL be successful. It starts with you deciding what you want and what you’re going to do and finding people to bring into your life that support you and are on the same journey.

You’ve probably heard that you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with (Jim Rohn). Maybe like me, this idea freaked you out because you wondered, am I going to have to ditch my closest relationships in order to be successful?

I’m not telling you to do that by ANY means. What I’m recommending you do instead is add some new, positive people in.

If you’re not where you want to be, it’s not your partner’s fault. I would venture to say that you haven’t made your mind up yet that this is a non-negotiable and that you’re going to figure out a way to do it.

People don’t get it because they’re not in it. They don’t have the authority to speak into your life that way ON THIS SUBJECT. As Darren Hardy says, if they’re not someone you’d trade places with, don’t listen to their advice!

Just like you wouldn’t take advice on how to find your soul mate from someone whose love life was a train wreck, it’s not helpful to listen to someone who’s bought into the corporate employee life when you’re growing your business. Find those people who are on the same path as you, who can lift you up. Find people who’ve been there and done it and learn how they did it.

If you don’t know anyone (or want to expand your circle), my Facebook group is a GREAT place to start, so come on over and say hi. It doesn’t matter where you find them, as long as you do.

Have you experienced these doubters before or are you dealing with them now? If you’re still struggling, comment below and I’ll respond with a tip just for you!

Next Steps

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Christine McAlister
Thrive Global

Business Coach for high-achievers; author of #1 bestseller The Income Replacement Formula, get Chapter 1 free at LifeWithPassion.com/freechapter