How To End Your “Karma”, Change Your Destiny & Future (Updated 2020)

Nicole Lana Lee
Sep 5, 2017 · 5 min read

The Past is Inherently “Empty”

A second ago, you may have been drinking coffee. Now, as you put down your coffee, that moment of you sipping that cup of coffee, which is a second ago, is already gone.

The past is “gone” — the past is your perception of what happened; you can also call it “your memory.” Most of the time, the past is the meaning your mind has assigned to events which happened.

Such events are inherently empty, be it a kiss on the cheek, a walk on the beach, having children, or more traumatic events like accident, death, and abuse. And most of us, including myself, walk around assigning meaning to our past, and projecting our past into the present and future — in relationships, in work, in life.

If you notice, most of us repeat the same patterns over and over again, in relationships, at work, even if circumstances don’t “appear” the same. In most cases, this wheel of cycle continues till we die, or even after we die, in many other lifetimes.

How To Change Destiny

Ignorance is the unawareness that we repeat the cycle and the past conditioning over and over again, thinking that we can’t alter our course, and/or trying to change our circumstances without understanding the root cause of our circumstances, which lies in our conscious and subconscious mind.

Change requires you to give up what you know, and dive into what you don’t know that you don’t know.

To “break through” the cycle of “karma” and change your “destiny,” you need to have the awareness and courage to dive deep into your mind and find the strength to face events in the past you did not want to face.

This is why shadow work is, in my opinion, key to integration and a foundation for kundalini awakening.

By doing so, you’re essentially “time traveling” and assigning different meaning to the past, and altering your “karma.”

Because “karma”, the wheel of cycle, is just “unawareness” that you are repeating the same pattern over and over again, even though the factors at play may not be the same.

And your destiny is not fixed — you are not “doomed.”

We have the power to change our course, when we become aware of our past conditioning from childhood, and patterns passed down from our ancestors and past lives, and are willing to resolve the emotions we did not want to feel in the past.

Feeling our repressed emotions and integrating our emotional wounds — shadow work — is key to rewriting our future.

By feeling such emotions, be they negative or positive, instead of repressing them, we are releasing the “trauma” and integrating our wounds, completing our past. This way, we can assign a different meaning to the past and move forward authentically.

Then, we will realize the emptiness of the “past.”

When we truly realize that the past is empty, every moment is a possibility. In this possibility, we realize that every moment is a possibility for us to begin anew.

But before we can deeply understand the above, we need to cultivate forgiveness for ourselves — forgiveness for ourselves for “mistakes” we have made in the past.

And “forgiveness” can be a painful and arduous process, which cannot be forced. I repeat — you cannot force forgiveness. You’ll know that you’ve forgiven when you know, because you’ll feel immense gratitude and peace for all that has happened in the past.

You’ll have a deep understanding for how all the events were intricately tied and led you to where you are and who you are now. You’ll deeply understand that — Nothing, I repeat — nothing — needs to be changed.

And as a result, you’ll cultivate profound self love for yourself. This self love, includes loving all parts of you — parts of you you feel so ashamed of, reject, suppress and deny.

It is through this profound self love that you forgive yourself. And then you stop playing into your previous karmic patterns and cycle.

And, after this realization, you can truly forgive others for what happened. You may even realize that you took part in creating the past, and that the world is a mirror hologram of your beliefs.

Then, you can rewrite your future based on a different meaning you assign to your past. Or, no meaning at all.

Acceptance, forgiveness, and presence come hand in hand.

Without forgiveness and acceptance of the past, it can be challenging to be present, as the past will likely haunt you, with your trauma projecting into the present.

By resolving the emotional wounds in the past that are projected into the present moment, you can become more present. And this is a process, that will take as long as it needs.

And one day, you may realize — your present and future is a blank sheet of paper, and you can rewrite it based on your new beliefs.

To end this post, I’m going to reiterate — You cannot force forgiveness, neither can anyone else force you to “expedite” the forgiveness process. It’s ok to not want to forgive, and feel wronged — such feelings are valid. Forgiveness will happen naturally. And, in the meantime, you can continue to cultivate compassion and self love for yourself, and notice moments of presence in your daily life. :)

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#1: How to Change Your Karma, Destiny & Future

#2: Be Present by Positively Embracing Your Negative Emotions

#3: How to Cultivate Self Love and Compassion

#4: How to be Present, Heal & Reprogram Your Subconscious

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