How To End Your “Karma”, Change Your Destiny & Future (Updated 2020)

Nicole Lana Lee
Sep 5, 2017 · 5 min read
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The Past is Inherently “Empty”

A second ago, you may have been drinking coffee. Now, as you put down your coffee, that moment of you sipping that cup of coffee, which is a second ago, is already gone.

The past is “gone” — the past is your perception of what happened; you can also call it “your memory.” Most of the time, the past is the meaning your mind has assigned to events which happened.

Such events are inherently empty, be it a kiss on the cheek, a walk on the beach, having children, or more traumatic events like accident, death, and abuse. And most of us, including myself, walk around assigning meaning to our past, and projecting our past into the present and future — in relationships, in work, in life.

If you notice, most of us repeat the same patterns over and over again, in relationships, at work, even if circumstances don’t “appear” the same. In most cases, this wheel of cycle continues till we die, or even after we die, in many other lifetimes.

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How To Change Destiny

Ignorance is the unawareness that we repeat the cycle and the past conditioning over and over again, thinking that we can’t alter our course, and/or trying to change our circumstances without understanding the root cause of our circumstances, which lies in our conscious and subconscious mind.

Change requires you to give up what you know, and dive into what you don’t know that you don’t know.

By doing so, you’re essentially “time traveling” and assigning different meaning to the past, and altering your “karma.”

Because “karma”, the wheel of cycle, is just “unawareness” that you are repeating the same pattern over and over again, even though the factors at play may not be the same.

And your destiny is not fixed — you are not “doomed.”

Feeling our repressed emotions and integrating our emotional wounds — shadow work — is key to rewriting our future.

By feeling such emotions, be they negative or positive, instead of repressing them, we are releasing the “trauma” and integrating our wounds, completing our past. This way, we can assign a different meaning to the past and move forward authentically.

Then, we will realize the emptiness of the “past.”

But before we can deeply understand the above, we need to cultivate forgiveness for ourselves — forgiveness for ourselves for “mistakes” we have made in the past.

And as a result, you’ll cultivate profound self love for yourself. This self love, includes loving all parts of you — parts of you you feel so ashamed of, reject, suppress and deny.

And, after this realization, you can truly forgive others for what happened. You may even realize that you took part in creating the past, and that the world is a mirror hologram of your beliefs.

Then, you can rewrite your future based on a different meaning you assign to your past. Or, no meaning at all.

Acceptance, forgiveness, and presence come hand in hand.

Without forgiveness and acceptance of the past, it can be challenging to be present, as the past will likely haunt you, with your trauma projecting into the present.

By resolving the emotional wounds in the past that are projected into the present moment, you can become more present. And this is a process, that will take as long as it needs.

And one day, you may realize — your present and future is a blank sheet of paper, and you can rewrite it based on your new beliefs.

To end this post, I’m going to reiterate — You cannot force forgiveness, neither can anyone else force you to “expedite” the forgiveness process. It’s ok to not want to forgive, and feel wronged — such feelings are valid. Forgiveness will happen naturally. And, in the meantime, you can continue to cultivate compassion and self love for yourself, and notice moments of presence in your daily life. :)

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Remember to check out my other articles on wellbeing here:

#1: How to Change Your Karma, Destiny & Future

#2: Be Present by Positively Embracing Your Negative Emotions

#3: How to Cultivate Self Love and Compassion

#4: How to be Present, Heal & Reprogram Your Subconscious

#5: A Simple Trick From a Zen Master Will Help You Sleep Better Tonight

#6: How to Reclaim Your Femininity, Open In Love + Be Vulnerable

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