How to Create Space for New Relationships
A Lesson in Manifesting
As we approach the end of the year, there’s such power in reflecting on 2017 and all the good things that have happened in our lives.
One crazy experience stood out to me so much that I’m sharing it below, because the lesson is universal.
I met a man in a local store who struck up a conversation with me. He then waited for me in the parking lot and asked for my number. Now before you think this was creepy or stalkerish, let me tell you that it wasn’t, and here’s why:
There were other things that were happening in my life at the time that I believe drew this man to me. But I’m getting ahead of myself, let’s just suffice it to say that THIS was a new experience for me and completely unexpected!
You see, I’ve also been reflecting on the many lessons I’ve learned this year. One of the biggest lessons was that in order to make room or create space for new people in your life, you need to let go of the ones who are no longer serving you.
I firmly believe that people come into our lives when we need them. They are there to serve a purpose by giving us what we need when we need it (or vice versa). You know the people that you are drawn to, the ones you have an affinity for and the ones that clearly are operating on the same wavelength as you. Those are your people.
This lesson of mine in 2017 was one that my business coach ever so gently pointed out to me; was it possible that I was trying to walk a different path with some people that were still on my old path? Was I walking with people that were no longer “my people”?
As I pondered that question, it became clear to me that there were people in my life who were not on my path. And they aren’t bad people; they were just on a different path. And that is okay. However, they didn’t understand my path and wanted me back on theirs. Not out of any malice, but simply because that is what they knew; mine and their paths going the same direction.
In 2016 I quit my 9–5 in order to pursue my passion of owning my own Wellness Coaching business. As I worked to build the business, these people were telling me that I needed to keep my resume updated and keep visible on LinkedIn and basically be ready for my new business to fail. They said my money would run out and I’d need to go back to my old practical self, life and work. Again, they weren’t saying these things out of malice. They just didn’t understand. They weren’t on my wavelength anymore.
I began to explore this concept; I began to see that these people were holding me back from my purpose. They were keeping me confused and stuck and unable to move forward on my new path. So, I had to distance myself from them. Some were easy and it just meant that I stayed away. Others were more difficult and required that I take a firm stand for myself and the path that I am on. This wasn’t easy to do, but it was necessary for me to grow into the person I want to be.
As I went through that process, I began to feel different and open in a way that I hadn’t been feeling. I was creating space in my life for my new clients and the people who I needed to connect with who were also entrepreneurs. I was also creating space for people that I long for in my life, such as my heart’s desire to have a partner walking with me.
Now back to my story about the guy who asked for my phone number. This actually happened the day after I made a difficult phone call to take my stand for who I am now and who I want to become. You see, by me taking that stand I opened up a space in my life for something better. This man was a representation of that fact. He was drawn to my energy of openness and willingness to allow something or someone new in my life. Even though I didn’t give him my number, he was my clear sign that I was on the right path. By making the painful decision to let go, new people were able to come in.
As you reflect over your year and prepare for the new one, ask yourself this question. Are there people in your life that are no longer “your people”? Is it time to let them go and create space for others that are on your path and wavelength now?
I’d love to hear from you! Have you experienced anything like this? Tell me about it in the comments!
Sherry Parks is a Wellness Coach who helps career women escape feeling trapped and out of control in their work life, so that they are happy on their own terms and have joy and excitement for their life. Grab her Free PDF, Top Tips for Successful Food Cleansing, here.
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