How To Make Your Mind a Chaos-Free Place
Advice to calm a cluttered mind.
I wonder if there’s a single individual whose thoughts have never known confusion and chaos. As much as you think that you are “balanced” and know what you want, no matter how well you have planned things out, sometimes comes a point when something goes wrong, it confuses you and changes your planned path.
Oftentimes you might say, “I’m confused, I don’t know what to do, I don’t know what I want, I don’t know where to start, My head is full of chaos, etc.”
Confusion usually occurs in life when there’s a shifting change or a crisis; when you are faced with unsolvable problems, and you feel that you are in deadlock; when you ask yourself too many questions, and cannot wait to find answers; when you have to solve a number of tasks, but it is difficult to determine priorities; when you are overwhelmed by the large amount of conflicting information and do not know what is true and which path to choose.
In these cases your head is a full mess of thoughts and questions, and the more you think and try to bring everything in line the more entangled and confused you become. You start asking people around yourself for advice, yet these different opinions cause more chaos in your head.
You feel helpless, vulnerable, lost, and a step away from falling into a depression.
The chaos in your head generated in response to fear makes you desperate to fight with it, wanting to arrange things in an instant moment and in other cases subconsciously trying to escape from it by addiction to food, pleasure, money, or even drugs.
How do you deal with the chaos in your head? Is there a way you can bring thoughts in order, so everything can flow in the right direction?
Confusion and chaos in your mind means change.
First, it is important to change your views of the chaos.
Do not take the confusion as something negative. In fact, chaos is a wonderful period that can bring change and development.
According to the Theory of Chaos, chaos is at the heart of person’s development.
The ancient Greeks believed that chaos is the originator of all things and that this is a natural and original state of all affairs. Chaos is not the opposite of order, but the absence of a specific type of seeming order.
Scientists have reached the conclusion that in fact order is born out of chaos.
Mess is necessary from time to time to stir things, so they can be arranged in a new way and to give birth to something new.
The processes of thinking also follow this model. Through individual’s various senses chaotic information reaches one’s essence then it’s processed and arranged, forming ideas, convictions, and beliefs, based on which one makes decisions and makes choices.
If you are constantly processing the same information, you will become stuck. When everything in life goes smoothly and evenly, you stand still.
The advent of new information, the emergence of new situations and alternatives support your development. It is when things go wrong that a new beginning period forms.
Although everything seems totally confusing and irreparable, in fact things are the way they should be, as they will be falling into place.
At such times you are performing under renovation. It seems that chaos is necessary to catalyze new beginnings and processes.
Chaos seems to be a scientific category that is an expression of irreversible disorder and a unique change system that presents new opportunities, development, and creativity.
Disorderliness is tiny disorder, tiny “fertility,” from which the new is born.
Since I was a child, while reading many books in the fields of psychology, philosophy, sciences, religions, literature, fiction, etc., at one point there was an overflow of information and chaos that took over.
So many theories, so much truth — who and what to believe, what path to take?
Many of the things I learned were contrary to my ideas about the world and myself.
This chaos began ruining my ideas and made me look for my own truth. Not the truth that was imposed to me by all of the readings. Thus, I gradually started to build new views of the world and myself and create methods and approaches that work for me.
Now looking back, I see this chaos I experienced, at very young age, as something that was necessary, so I could build something new.
This often happens within the confusion of many life problems. Sometimes the mess breaks all individual concepts and questions everything you knew until it becomes a turning point in your life.
If you use this moment and see opportunity in it, you can make a significant leap in your development and change your life for the better.
Methods I used during such moments:
The power of meditation.
I have found that the best way to find calmness and to bring order out of chaos is meditation.
Stop for a moment and be alone with yourself. Watch your thoughts, which are like wild birds darting to and from without direction. Watch them without trying to arrange them, stop them or give them definitions and evaluation. Just calmly and impartially watch their chaotic movement until they calm themselves.
When you are unconscious and automatically react to the ensuing internal chaos, the chaos grows, and when your emotional attitude towards what is happening is realized or under realization chaos begins to transform in order.
The power of decision-making.
Often at the root of the confusion is a fear that you cannot make a decision to take a step forward. Listen to your inner voice and just make a decision. Remember that there are no right or wrong decisions, just different solutions. It is better to take a step forward and be wrong than to live in hesitation to procrastination, standing in one place.
The power of doing the same thing over and over every day at a particular time.
Performing routine things of every day life such as eating, sleeping, shopping, cooking, etc. at a certain time of the day and being completely present at that very moment will help you to be “on track.” When your daily activities are carried out in a mode that makes processes in your body and mind this creates synchronization in life.
Focus entirely on your daily activities. When you realize every action and pay attention to small details around you — like the bright red color of tomatoes or aroma of the coffee or tea you drink — this becomes a meditative practice that also helps the transformation of chaos into order.
Often in these ordinary moments of everyday life you reach a decision, insight or realize peace and order over chaos.
The power of time and allowing yourself to flow through what is happening.
Don’t force yourself to exit the chaos immediately. Time is necessary to go through the chaos. So run with the flow and enjoy every moment along the way.
The power of confusion to create order.
Realize that confusion is not something final and irreversible. Realize that is like a cloud that temporarily hides the sun or the rising stars.
Have patience and do not strive to solve everything immediately. Just identify your priorities and start from that point. Step by step things will fall in the best way possible.
Everything sounds easier said than do, right?
Of course, in some cases, chaos continues for a very long time. Situations seem complicated, convoluted, and scary. In such moments, it would be wise to share with others and seek specialists to help you correct the path of organizing the chaos.
What do you think? Have you ever been confused and how did you deal with the internal chaos?
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About The Author
Dr. Kachovska is an internationally known Change Catalyst. She teaches individuals and organizations about awareness, connection and the need for change — personally, socially, and professionally.