How To Not Sweat The Small Stuff
The secret is creating space in your life.
How often do you hear the phrase ‘don’t sweat the small stuff”? Most heard at a point where you are doing exactly that. And, why? Because all perspective has simply gone flying out the window. You’re juggling too much. You’re in overwhelm. You don’t know which bit to jump on and tackle next.
Small stuff all of a sudden got big.
If you’re sweating the small stuff, it’s a really good indicator that you’re doing too much.
Many a time I have found myself in such a place. It kind of comes with the territory of having an adrenaline charged body and being a bit of a work addict. These days, however my barometer for busy and it’s impact on my body has become highly sensitised due to my now known adrenaline-related health condition. But, before I got sick, these were just normal, tolerable reactions.
So because I’ve now become so in tune with how my own body responds, I thought I would give you a window into my observations about the times when I can handle the small stuff and the times when I can’t.
I encourage you to think about yourself when you read them and see if they resonate for you?
Frazzled and intolerant of the small stuff for me happens when my brain is over occupied. I have trouble thinking. I’m rushing. I’m multi-tasking. I’m juggling. I’m snappy. There’s also perhaps too much noise or commotion. I’m tired. This is stress as most people know it. Nowadays I try to avoid these situations! But I’ve noticed I can also be buzzing and over excited at the same time. I buzz. I can over alert. I talk fast. I’m excited. I can look like the energiser bunny. Sometimes I also shake and sometimes I get chest pain. When I’m like this, I find it difficult to sleep and my morning headaches are worse. My body overall feels out of control.
When I am taking things more in my stride, there is no accompanying buzz and there is no maniacal task jumping. I’m relaxed. I’m calm. I’m well rested/slept. Noise levels around me are low. I have time to think. I’m rational. I can breathe properly. I talk in better sentences! I look rather chill. Feels like a much better place to be doesn’t it?
Why is it we get so caught up?
We jump on the rush. I am busy. Busy is good. Busy gets me a promotion. Oh I’ve been so busy today, I’m busy all the time, look at me (busy, busy, busy). Because busy is adrenaline and adrenaline is addictive. And busy comes at the expense of our health. The bit we take for granted. Until it’s impacted.
There are some obvious on reflection choices to ensure your health isn’t compromised because of all this busyness, work and adrenaline.
They are fairly obvious but the question is, how much do you actively DO them?
Slow down. Having a calm day takes preparation and thought.
Why are you rushing? You do not have to be superman or superwoman to prove anything to anyone. Be comfortable in your own skin with who you are and what you bring to the table. Don’t take on new stuff just because someone has asked you. Accord yourself the respect you would hopefully be mindful of for others. Say no for yourself. Slow the pace down. Pause the race. Give yourself more space .Don’t be ashamed to say ‘no, not today’ for ‘perhaps tomorrow’ instead. Sleep on that decision. It’ll be a better one the next day. And if you’re a bit disorganised, perhaps spend a bit more time getting prepared.
Get some decent rest.
Sleep the hours you need. Don’t sacrifice that time. Turn your gadgets off and wind down for bed. Power nap in the day if you can. A 20 min ‘shut eye’ is so calming and revitalising. If you can’t take a nap, then find a quiet spot. Don’t continue to rev your engine by auditory means. Find yourself a quiet room. Extract yourself. Do it often.
Yeah right Sherlock I do that all the time! I’m talking about mindful breathing or meditation. Grounding breaths through your belly. Not the upper chest kind. The kind you’re inevitably doing right now. Use your lungs and stomach fully at every possible opportunity. In meetings. At your desk. In the car. On the train. Deep, slow breathing is instantly so calming. Switch yourself off from that stressful issue and focus on your breath. Create space from it. Focus on the here and now. Steady the ship.
Avoid stressful situations or people.
Who cares about some bunkum that learning to deal with stressful situations is personal development. Who made that up? Just avoid them full stop. You know those people who shrink away from controversy — be one of them! Don’t involve yourself. Step away from it. Flick it off. Focus on what you can control.
Overall, it’s about creating space.
Systemically, creating space is the most effective strategy I’ve found to protect myself. Personally, I can’t meditate through busy. I’ve tried but it’s like ‘bandaiding’ busy. The effects really don’t last long enough.
So, become the quintessential space ninja!
Space your commitments. Pace yourself. Put off what doesn’t need doing today. Put spacers in between everything. Space your meetings. Declutter your desk. Allow yourself lots of downtime. Extract yourself. Quieten. Make downtime a normal part of your routine.
Call it ‘think time’ if it helps. And if you can’t find space in your day, then perhaps it’s time you did something about it. Change the things that may seemingly appear to be out of your control. Find a way to give yourself space and perspective.
You owe it to your health to stop the whir in your brain and the detrimental impact on your nervous and cardiovascular systems.
By slowing your pace, your reactions will slow and that small stuff (that used to get under your skin) won’t matter one tiny bit.