One Thing Stopping You From Meeting Your Soulmate

Discover How to Change Your Beliefs and Call in Love.

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Do you find yourself questioning if your soulmate actually exists and what you should be doing to find them?

Do you feel like there is something hindering you from finding the one but you have no idea what it is?

I believe your ability to find love is shaped by your current thought patterns and beliefs systems — Your thoughts about yourself, your thoughts about your past, and the stories you keep telling yourself that end up manifesting in your life.

Your thoughts influence every aspect of your life, including your relationships.

For example, have you ever thought it was hard to meet someone who meets your level of maturity and the next person you date ends up being super immature? Do you always seem to date people who aren’t emotionally available? They seem great at first then aren’t ready to commit.

When you think a thought enough times it becomes a belief — something you hold to be true. The good thing about a belief is it can be changed because it is simply a thought you think over and over again.

A few years ago, my dating life was not what I wanted. I kept meeting men that weren’t emotionally available or ready for a relationship. They all eventually left me feeling alone and abounded.

For 27 years, I lived my life not being aware of my beliefs and patterns, so I kept repeating them. During November 2015, I was broken up with over the phone a week before my boyfriend at the time was going to take me home to meet his parents for thanksgiving. This was the 4th failed relationship I had been in since moving to LA four years earlier. I was heartbroken, ready to give up on love, and convinced something was wrong with me.

Frustrated and confused, it was clear to me that I needed to try something different. I was ready to fully show up for the life lesson that was repeatedly presenting itself to me. I started researching more about manifesting, the law of attraction, and learned an important lesson — our thoughts create our reality. I discovered how to change my beliefs about love and, within a few months, I met the man I now call my husband. I am happy to say we got married on November 11th in my dream wedding venue. It was the perfect day that I have been dreaming of since I was a little girl.

Do you find yourself reliving the same patterns in relationships or do you have a negative story about love that you are keeping on replay?

Maybe you believe it is hard to meet someone who meets your level of maturity, that all the good partners are taken, you are too old to meet someone, or you don’t deserve love.

My negative story about love was that I was always being abandoned. I also, believed it was really hard to meet a good guy. I was always told by my friends and peers that dating in LA was hard and no one was looking for a commitment. Since I believed these stories to be true, they soon became my reality.

The interesting thing about a story is that it doesn’t always start out as your own. You hear someone else share a limiting belief about dating and at some point, you accept it to be true. Once you accept it to be true, you will attract experience in your life that will reinforce that story, just as I had.

It doesn’t have to be that way. You can become aware of your story and change it and I’m going to teach you how.

First, grab and pen and paper and write down your reoccurring patterns or fears you notice in your relationships. Next think about what your friends, family, and peers say about dating and finding love. On any level do you believe these stories too? If so, write them down.

Maybe your story or belief is that you always getting ghosted, you like people who are unavailable, or attract partners who aren’t looking for anything serious. Ask yourself, what is the underlying belief?

Next, write down the new belief you want to have. What is the new story you want to create?

For example, if you believe “I always attract unavailable partners” Maybe you want to change your story to “I only attract truly interested, available partners.”

If you believe you only attract partners who aren’t looking for anything serious” you could change your story to “I only attract partners who are ready for a serious committed relationship.”

A belief or story is simply a thought you think over and over again. It can be changed. I want you to commit to changing your story by writing down or saying your new story at least 10 times a day, everyday, for the next 30 days.

Notice yourself talk while you program this new belief. At first your thoughts might be “ya right” or “no way.” With time, as you begin to accept this new belief you will notice that you will begin to attract people into your life who will reflect this new belief, just as you previously attracted people into your life that reflected your old belief.

Like myself and many others who have found love, you can change your story. Now is the time to write and program a new empowering one.

You can do it! Your true love is out there waiting for you and I can’t wait for you to meet them.