Pretend You Belong

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I used to record audio and video at events in hotels and convention centers around the country.

This was mostly behind-the-scenes work, and required special access. At first I’d stop staff and ask permission to go backstage or enter the employee-only hallways.

That got old — for me and them.

Finally, I stopped asking and simply walked through those doors. But this wouldn’t have worked well if I didn’t change something else.

I made a mental shift and started acting like I belonged back stage — dropping the nervousness and getting about the work I was there to do.

As I walked by other employees, I adopted a purposeful gait and confidently greeted them with a smile.

Addressing the leaders and keynote speakers, I strode up to them like was supposed to be there.

Because I was.

And I looked these people in the eye, as an equal.

Because I was.

Yes, some pretending was involved, because the uncertainty was real.

A funny thing happened when I stopped acting like I didn’t belong.

No one minded.

The truth is, if you’re pursuing your calling with excellence, integrity, and service, you do belong

There is no secret club to join or permission slip to obtain.

The people on the other side of those doors, or velvet ropes, are just like you — except they stepped through. They’re scared, insecure, and wondering if they measure up. But they have a dream, a talent, and want to help people. So they focus on the goal and not the false boundaries.

Where the line resides

The line we need to cross is located in our brain.

Organizational charts, career ladders, and rules of success are lovely works of fiction. But if you believe them, you’ll stay trapped in your comfort zone.

What line do you need to cross to fullfil your calling?

Take a step. It’s not pretending if you belong there.


Mike Loomis, author of Your Brand Is Calling and My Book Launch Planner, helps people launch their dream projects and books. Since starting and selling two businesses, he’s a strategic partner to entrepreneurs, authors, and nonprofits. He and his wife live in the mountains of Colorado with their pet moose. www.MikeLoomis.CO