Remaining Centered Amidst Daily Stressors
Stop, My Priority Is My Peace!
There are times in people’s lives when they are overwhelmed with everyday “problems.” They feel, as if they are “suffocating,” complaining of “annoying” obligations; they feel, as if time gallops and there’s no time for anything, yet they have million of things to do. They want to achieve more, to do this and that, have more money, more time, lead a healthier lifestyle and they somehow end up failing. They somehow always “twist” themselves in the daily chaos of life. A chaos and a rush that seems so sweeping, as if it’s a hurricane depriving people even from adequate sleep. They feel constantly stressed and anxious, never being able to find peace within themselves.
How does one achieve “peace” in the daily chaos of life?
Of course, I wouldn’t think that you’d like to become an ascetic and meditate 24/7 on the peak of a mountain that you may not physically have. And as social beings most people enjoy communication and the challenges of the dynamics of life.
Yet, people want their work to be pleasing to them, for them to work well, to feel at peace, to eat healthy and feel good. But, people end up feeling tired, having the need to take a break and the need to find mental peace and comfort.
Does this sound familiar to you? Have you ever asked yourself the questions: “Is there a way for me to combine peace and the dynamics of everyday life? Are they compatible?”
I think there’s a perfect fit between the two.
Movement, dynamics, challenges, and change of life are all parts of our human nature. Challenges fuel us with energy, enthusiasm; make us feel alive and complete. Yet, to be able to achieve harmony in the chaos of life, we need to follow the natural rhythm of life, the movement of life.
What are some concrete steps that you can take?
Determine your priorities.
Of course the first step is your peace of mind. Write yourself a note and remind yourself often — “My priority is my peace.”
“Nothing that happens to me is more important than my peace. Believe me. Nothing is as important.”
For instance, you’re worried that you have no job or that you will lose your job — and if this ends up happening, you will find a new one and you will learn how to handle difficult situations and you will build more confidence in yourself.
Or, you have “urgent” priorities, and you cannot manage to complete them on time — stress and tension will not help you complete them faster. On the contrary — they will only slow you down.
Next step would be for you to realize that at the end of every situation there’s a way out of. Even if you fail to complete something on time, you will cause yourself more harm and disharmony that might damage your health and it will end up making you feel worse.
Perhaps people speak behind your back — what does that mean to you? It might just mean that they don’t have anything more to talk about and you’re worthy of topic. In many cases criticism of people ends up being a compliment at some point in time.
Maybe someone close to you is ill and needs you, needs financial help and care — how will you help them, if you are under stress and don’t feel good?
You cannot be helpful in any way to others, if you’re stressed out and anxious all the time.
When you feel that you’re worried, you feel tension, as if it’s pressuring you; when this happens tell yourself: “Stop, my priority is my peace, everything else will fall into place.”
Work on arranging your tasks by importance and by concentrating on each of them one by one. In most cases, small problems will disappear or will solve by themselves.
Do not overwhelm yourself with absolutely everything. Family members can be helpful — your children, spouse, siblings, friends. Trust others that can do part of the “job” you need to finish. Others can help share the responsibilities.
Allow yourself time to take a break. Don’t delay the break for when you finish this or that, or for when things become “better.” The “right” time never comes, and “problems,” and “urgent” tasks will always be there. Not a single job or task can be so urgent that it cannot wait for a few minutes or a couple of hours — where you can relax, spend time with family and friends, take a walk, and even “watch paint dry.”
These few minutes or hours can be extremely beneficial to you, refuel you, make you feel better, and make you feel rejuvenated and full of energy.
Don’t circle on your past and think too much ahead into your future. Analyzing what you have done or might have done and what you missed on wastes your energy, time and efforts.
Fretting about how you will handle what will happen tomorrow, without knowing what will happen tomorrow only adds stress to your life — focus on things one by one.
If you are too “engrossed” in the “complexity” of the “problem” and feel powerless, overwhelmed, have anxiety, nervousness and tension, and you’re being impatient, then it’s time to tell yourself: “Stop, my priority is my peace.”
Change your attitude towards the situations you’ve fallen into. And if the situation bothers you, you always have three choices:
- Change it, so that it suits you.
- Leave the situation and ignore it.
- Accept it completely.
Lack of acceptance causes disharmony. Even such an insignificant thing as you possibly being irritated by your own inactions can add stress to you.
If someone angers you — you can share your feelings with him or her and telling the individual what you think, or you always have the option of leaving the place or accepting the person as who he or she is.
It is completely pointless to stress over things you have control over.
Acceptance means being at peace and in harmony with your own self, regardless of the situation.
And don’t forget to remind yourself:
“Stop, my priority is my peace!”
What approaches do you add to your daily “chaos” to achieve peace and harmony?
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About The Author
Dr. Kachovska is an internationally known Change Catalyst. She teaches individuals and organizations about awareness, connection and the need for change — personally, socially, and professionally.