Reset Your Life
Discover the importance of health, wellbeing, self-care and living every day of your life from your center.
We’ve all had those moments where we have felt overwhelmed and burnt out. In fact, I can recall a recent experience in my life where I felt this way. It is a feeling that I do not like to feel and I had not experienced it in a long time. However, at the midway point of 2016 I found myself stressed out. I had a few key business goals that I was not reaching and I was in the middle of trying to promote a book. In addition, I had some major life decisions that I was trying to make. It was a lot but I thought I was managing it well. Then I had an experience that shook me to my core. I had a health scare and I felt like I was having a heart attack. In that moment I could literally feel my entire life pass before me. I realized that it was not worth it to be stressed, overwhelmed and on the brink of a complete meltdown. For a long time I have empowered people around the world to walk through difficult times and live whole lives. However, I found myself having to pull on those sessions to walk through my own major life crisis. Thankfully I was okay and I am better than ever. On the other hand, what I learned during that time was invaluable. It is vitally important to learn how to hit the reset button on your life.
- Surround yourself with the right people. I had a conversation with a friend a few months prior to this health crisis. This friend kept encouraging me to slow down and take a break. I listened intently to the friend but I knew that my life and schedule was too busy at that time to take a break. I promised the friend that when I found the time I was going to take a break. However, this friend kept insisting that I take a break sooner rather than later. I could tell this friend was worried about me and the tone of the conversation was really serious. I left that conversation encouraged and concerned. I had never heard this friend speak to me with that level of seriousness. I knew it was important and I was trying to find out how to create space in my life to slow down and relax. Honestly, I had no idea that only a few months later I would be dealing with a major health scare in my life. It’s so important to surround yourself with the right people. You need people around you that will speak the truth to you in love. More importantly, you need people around you that will hold you accountable. I’m so thankful for that friend today because that advice may have saved my life.
- Stop living with the super person trap. If you have followed my work, then you know I write a lot about breaking free from the super person trap. It is a complex that we all have. Essentially, we all have a desire to want to help people. Unfortunately, sometimes that desire to help has no boundaries. We continue to say yes and make commitments that we know we cannot keep. I know in my own life I have the tendency to try and help as many people as I can. While this is admirable, I have discovered that it is impossible to help everyone. You cannot be all things to all people. It is a very noble life goal. However, it is unrealistic and it is dangerous to live with this super person trap. Never allow your desire to help to become so great that you neglect your health and your well being in the process. It is something I have been guilty of and that is why I have set boundaries and created multiple accountability partners in my life. Everyone wants to be a superhero. However, you cannot sacrifice your health in your attempt to save the world.
- Learn the power of saying no. This is a lesson I had to learn the hard way. In the early days of my business opportunities were few and in between. When I started experiencing success I was just saying yes to everything. I was just so grateful for all the opportunities that were emerging. However, I soon learned that success is often defined by what you are willing to say no to. It was a major life shifting moment for me. I could not say yes to every magazine interview, feature request and business partnership. If you say yes to everything, you will ultimately find yourself living a life that pleases everyone else but pains you. You will find your time being capitalized by others. Furthermore, you will find yourself drifting further away from the things that are important to you. I’m not saying that you should just turn down every opportunity. What I am telling you is that you must guard your focus and protect your time. Any opportunity that moves you away from peace and creates stress within you is not right for you.
- You must create your reset plan. It was not enough for me to have that conversation with my friend. In addition, it was not enough for me to have that major health scare in 2016. The most important thing was that I made the decision to take action. The conversation with my friend still did not stop me from having a health scare. I left that conversation feeling encouraged but encouragement is not enough. Awareness is not enough. Anything that you do not take action on is allowed to persist in your life. After my health scare, I sat down and started writing in my journal. I wrote out my reset plan. In particular, I carved out my morning routine to include more time for reflection, prayer and spiritual empowerment. Next, I set a cap on the number of projects I would take on during any given week. Then I scheduled in self-care moments every single week. Most importantly, I created a life accountability board. These are trusted advisors that I speak with regularly about my life, health and ultimate well being. These individuals hold me accountable, provide wisdom for making life changes and make sure that I am taking care of myself on a daily basis. I’ve discovered that we all need a reset plan for our lives. Start creating your reset plan today and achieve new results in your life!