Survival Tactics For Life After Divorce
Anyone that has went through a painful divorce knows that simply surviving can be a difficult task. Severe Grief, loneliness, depression, anxiety, fear and not wanting to get out of bed life was so bad are yet still major memories I still harbor in my mind, even after 20 years. Even the mere thoughts of starting a new day after separation is something some people struggle with trying to re-start a life after you’ve been hit with this life-changing problem.
While there is no doubting that your life is going to change because of your divorce, these changes do not have to impact you negatively. Though it is perfectly reasonable to experience some levels of grief initially when you begin going through a divorce, there is no reason that these initial levels of despair will last. If your goal is to reach a healthier place, these eight steps can help you.
Consider Professional Help
Your divorce likely caused some emotional trauma. There is no shame in admitting that, and the best way to move past that psychological trauma is to seek help from a licensed professional.
Build a Positive Support System
There will be days that you are still overcome with sadness because of your divorce. On those days, you will need to draw from the support network of your friends and family.
Take an Honest Inventory of Why Your Relationship Failed
Part of moving on to a happier and healthier spot emotionally requires you to take an honest internal assessment of why your marriage ended in divorce. This will provide you will a sense of closure, as opposed to a constant “what if” that may cloud your future if you do not deal with these feelings.
Avoid Negative Coping Strategies
Some people turn to alcohol and drugs to cope with their divorce. Others find themselves in a cycle of new and unfulfilling relationships to “prove” that there is nothing wrong with them. Incorporating these strategies into your life will only delay your future happiness.
Explore New Hobbies
Following your divorce, you are now able to focus less on what makes your partner happy and can focus on what makes you happy. Take advantage of this newfound freedom and try new life experiences. Learn to knit! Try skydiving! Take a cooking class.
Make Your Needs a Priority
Take some time for yourself and focus on you. Stay in when you want to and go out when you want to; there is no reason to feel selfish about taking time to heal on your schedule.
Stay Physically Healthy
Eat well and get enough exercise. These will help keep your body in peak physical condition and will help prevent dealing with sickness and depression. Get into hobbies like gardening, walking, joining a health club, anything that will get you out of the house.
Acknowledge That Your Happiness is Your Choice
You will still have negative days following your divorce. But ultimately, it will be up to you to determine how much you wallow in your misery before you talk to someone or get up off the couch and try something new.
The road to becoming happy and satisfied with your life after a divorce is not one that you need to rush. Every day is an opportunity to increase your positive coping strategies. Keeping the focus on making your life better through these tips, even when it is difficult to do so. Your marriage did not collapse overnight, and you will not heal from its loss overnight, either.