The Importance of Self Care and Advice to Blossoming Authors: With Patrice Brown
“Step outside your comfort zone. You will face rejection but take it as a lesson and work on the issues and try again. The more you try the more you learn and grow.”
Patrice Brown the author of A Fat Girl’s Confidence, I’m Fat, So What? and founder of Confident Fat Girls Movement. She has spent the last two decades serving her community as a Mental Health Counselor, which is no surprise where the idea and motivation behind writing this book came from. Patrice also created the Confident Fat Girl’s Movement to help women discover their confidence, truth, and secrets to becoming a proud healthy fat girl. She understands firsthand the shaming from the world and what it can trigger to one’s self-esteem.
Thank you so much for joining us! Can you share a story about what brought you to this particular career path?
I have always written stories and journaled in my spare time. I write to express myself and teach it to the people I serve at my counseling practice, Restoring Bodies and Minds. It’s important that I write my thoughts and feelings down instead of keeping them bottled up inside. This is my way of keeping my mental and emotional health balanced.
Can you share the most interesting story that occurred to you in the course of your career?
As I was writing “ A Fat Girl’s Confidence” in 2017, I was also battling the grief of my mother’s death. Writing became my therapy and I wanted to uplift myself as well as other plus-size women across the world who might be experiencing the same feeling I remembered times when I didn’t feel pretty internally and externally, as I feel today. I had so many bottled emotions and rejections dealing with my personal life.
I recently got a breast reduction due to my ex-boyfriend making a joke about me. I went through an identity phase, I had forgotten who I was. I realized I was stuck and unable to move forward because I had lost control of MYSELF. I knew I had to take the power back over me and focus on positive change. Nothing happened overnight. I took baby steps at the beginning.
Can you share a story about the funniest mistake you made when you were first starting? Can you tell us what lesson you learned from that?
Thinking that I finished before I ever got started. When I first started as a counselor, I thought it was easy, much like writing books. Truth is, I got my documentation sent back numerous times, just like my books. I had to revise and edit documents over and over. I went in thinking my work was the BOMB! My head was held high and I was confident. Little did I know, I still had a lot of work and growth to do, like every other person.
What are some of the most interesting or exciting projects you are working on now?
“The Confident Fat Girl’s Movement” focuses on pledging to taking responsibility for your actions and implementing positive changes and self-growth in everything you plan to do.
Women will, at some point in their lives, experience depression. 43% of women suffer with obesity and depression. My goal is to inspire positive and healthy mental and emotional change, plus uplift women around the world to love every inch of themselves, internally and externally.
To sign the pledge and take part in the “Confident Fat Girl’s Movement” click here!
Can you share the most interesting story that you shared in your book?
I remember being on a date and the guy described me as fat with an exception. He said, “Like you, fat but you not fat, fat.” I had to correct him and say “fat” is fat no matter what your shape is. Women share this experience whether they are “too thin” or “too fat.”
What is the main empowering lesson you want your readers to take away after finishing your book?
Self Care is important to your mental and emotional health. It is important to choose yourself first and take the action needed. Learn and find hobbies that feed your soul and mind. Continue to expand your brain with positivity and the rest will follow. You’re never too old to learn. You can be attractive, loved, funny and inspiring by just simply being you. It is important that we heal ourselves from negative thoughts and unhealthy patterns.
Which people in history inspire you the most? Why?
Harriet Tubman, she was a leader with a great movement that we can’t forget.
Which literature do you draw inspiration from? Why?
· Langston Hughes, his writing and poetry have been an inspiration since I was young girl.
· Maya Angelou, her writings were inspirational for me as woman coming from North Carolina. Although she was from a different era, I can still feel and envision her struggle.
· Stephen King is the author that I look for supernatural inspiration. I enjoy his work.
How do you think your writing makes an impact in the world?
It’s real, inspiring and shares solutions to everyday issues.
What advice would you give to someone considering becoming an author like you?
Just do it, like Nike! Take that leap and put that pen on the pad and write your heart out. Don’t limit your creativity. Step outside your comfort zone. You will face rejection but take it as a lesson and work on the issues and try again. The more you try the more you learn and grow.
If you could start a movement that would bring the most amount of good to the most amount of people, what would that be?
“The Confident Fat Girl’s Movement.” We celebrate life with great vibes of inspiration and motivation by helping you find a positive healthier lifestyle and take control of the issues you are facing.
What is something you wish someone told you when you first started and why?
When I first started, I wish someone would have told me that just because you can write a complete book doesn’t mean you will sell out. When I first released my book, “Secrets Of A Crazy Mental Health Counselor,” I had the notion my book would sell out in minutes. Wow! Was I wrong. I quickly learned you must know how to promote and market your work. Just because you have a good book, it doesn’t guarantee sales.
Is there a person in the world whom you would love to have a private breakfast or lunch with, and why?
Martin Lawrence is someone I want to sit down and have breakfast with. To have the opportunity to laugh and learn about his career in comedy has been something I’ve been curious since I was young. I grew up watching “Martin” and he helped me get through each day with his comedy. I feel like he and the cast of the show were a part of my family.
I would also love to collaborate on a charity event with 50 Cent. I want to see his soft side, hands on giving back to the people. Apron, hair net and all!
How can our readers follow you on social media?
Facebook: Patrice Shavone Brown