The Millennial’s Guide to Personal Development
Perspectives on work, love, and personal growth.
How many of us grew up hearing the following?
“You can be anything you want to be when you grow up.”
Through schooling and adolescence, we were in a system set up for us to expect success after reaching adulthood. Do well in class. Excel at extra-curricular activities. Progress to the next level. After reaching adulthood however, the levels stopped. We ended up finding ourselves in front of several doors, each leading down a path with no predictable outcome.
How do we choose?
For many of us, this is the rude awakening.
The proverbial fork(s) in the road.
We want to “find ourselves” so we take gap years, backpacking sabbaticals, and social service projects. We feel as if we’re always missing out somewhere in life — in our careers, relationships, or personal growth.
If we’re Harry Potter, Daenerys Targaryen, or Luke Skywalker… then where’s our Dumbledore, Tyrion, or Yoda?
The truth is there are no guardrails, no system to follow, and no linear progression in adulthood. What there are are decisions to make. Life is a game of tradeoffs betting against the fear of missing out (FOMO).
“Someone once told me the definition of Hell: The last day you have on earth, the person you became will meet the person you could have become.” — Anonymous
We curated this guide to help us fight the FOMO and navigate our 20's and 30's with more confidence.
How to Use This Guide
There are a lot of click-baitey articles and self-proclaimed gurus out there who promise shortcuts to success. This is not one of those guides.
This guide serves as a starting point and reference for people who are on a journey of personal development.
We want to help you build a stronger sense of self-awareness and share perspectives from our peers so that we may better navigate our 20's and 30's.
Full disclosure, I co-run a daily newsletter called theFOMO with my twin brother Tim Chen. This guide has been curated over the past year in our own journeys for personal development. We are now sharing it with you.
This guide includes the following:
(1) Online Sources: These are email newsletters, content sites, and Medium blogs that we’ve found valuable to our friends.
(2) People to Know: Definitely not comprehensive by any means, but we collected a list of names of individuals who publish regularly.
(3) Evergreen Content: This list might as well be a mile along, which is why we’re redirecting it to a separate Google Sheet to track.
Personal Development Online Sources
💌 Email Newsletters (5):
These publishers’ content are best received in email format and are published either daily or weekly.
A mix of original and narrated perspectives on career, relationships, and personal growththefomo.co
We're quite glad that you read Farnam Street, and we hope we're always offering you a massive amount of value. (If not…farnamstreetblog.com
Hi. I'm Eric, the guy behind the blog. This site brings you science-based answers and expert insight on how to be…bakadesuyo.com
Half the beauty of life lies in its complexity - in those experiences whose depth and dimension cannot be sliced…brainpickings.org
🖥 Media, Blogs and Websites (15):
These sites serve as aggregators or have collections of content from different contributors.
Using research and studies in psychology, sociology, and genetics to examine our relationships, parenting styles…nymag.com
Real wellness advice for imperfect humans, plus news coverage of medical science and health around the world.tonic.vice.com
Use our career guidance to learn how to negotiate a pay raise, see how to decide your career path, and get advice on…www.themuse.com
The Art of Manliness is here to revive the lost art of manliness. We encourage men to be better husbands, fathers…www.artofmanliness.com
Greatist covers all things healthy, providing the most trusted and fun fitness, health, and happiness content on the…greatist.com
The School of Life is devoted to developing emotional intelligence. Immerse yourself in our products, events, videos…www.theschooloflife.com
Welcome to Live Your Legend and OUR Revolution. Mount Kilimanjaro cut short the life of our legendary founder, Scott…liveyourlegend.net
Introvert, Dear is a community for introverts and HSPs. Get insight and inspiration about introversion, high…introvertdear.com
The Book of Life - Developing Emotional Intelligence - The Book of Life is the 'brain' of The School of Life, a…www.thebookoflife.org
Traditional New Year's resolutions-losing weight, finding a relationship, or quitting a bad habit-are often ungrounded…www.mindful.org
The past few birthdays of mine have been remembered as: recovering from a month-long battle with mono and wisdom teeth…themighty.com
Aeon is a magazine of ideas and culture. We publish in-depth essays, incisive articles, and a mix of original and…aeon.co
Stories from the Escape community and beyond, our blog is all the fuel you need to find work that makes you feel alive.www.escapethecity.org
📝 Medium Publications (14):
We poured through almost 50 different publications and came up with the best ones that tackle personal development.
Home to some of the best stories on medium. Look around, relax and enjoy one with a sip of coffee.medium.com
Human Parts explores the patchwork of the human condition through experimental and traditional personal writing. Email…medium.com
Curated Writings where Information becomes Knowledge. Look around and become Limitless!medium.com
The Leading writes about anything to improve peoples’ lives. This could be through different experiences, ideas…theleading.co
A woman is single for the first time in her adult life. This is what happens next. Often humorous, always honest. Real…medium.com
“Rational thoughts for self-connected people.” We write about the small, sometimes almost imperceptible steps we take…selfknowledgedaily.com
People to Know for Personal Development
Here’s list of individuals who are active in the personal development space. I’ve included their brief background and also linked their Medium, Twitter, and personal websites. Jump into the conversation!
Names are denoted with the following: those who write about career and work (CW), love and relationships (LR), and/or personal growth (PG).
Mark Manson (CW)(LR)(PG): “Entrepreneur, blogger, psychology nerd, world traveler, former dating coach — writing about rational self development since 2007. NYTimes bestselling author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck”
Medium | Twitter | Website
We’ve curated a list of writings that are just so damn good they’ve stood the test of time. Because we want this to be a living document, you can find the Google Doc below. Now go check it out you anonymous armadillo!
Also check out an earlier post we did on impactful articles:
Special thanks: to Sam DeBrule for his awesome Non-Technical Guide to Machine Learning & Artificial Intelligence as a template for this guide. Tim Chen for editing. And Nick Frost for featuring on Mattermark Daily.