The Secret to Bouncing Back from Setbacks
Discover the strategies for getting unstuck and adding purpose and significance to your life.
A few years ago I went through one of the worst times in my life. My business was struggling and I was stressed out in a way that I had never been before. Ultimately, my business was on life support and I was trying everything I could to save it. Unfortunately, the business collapsed and I had to shut it down. It was one of the most difficult moments of my life. I was depressed, frustrated and facing the reality of failure in my life. I tried to shake myself but I could not seem to snap out of it. I knew I was stuck and I was trying to figure out how I was going to get out of this situation. It is easy to create plans before a crisis occurs in your life. However, when you have exhausted all options, it is much more difficult to find a solution. I am glad to be on the other side of that situation now. My business is doing well and I have experienced incredible success. However, the lessons I learned during that time changed my life. These principles will empower you to get unstuck and live an uncommon life.
- You have to release whatever is stressing you. We often talk about managing stress. However, the reality is that none of us are that great with managing stress. If you follow my work, then you know I wrote about my health scare. I thought I was having a heart attack. It was a moment that shook me to my core and redefined my life and my priorities. Thankfully it was just a scare but it is an example of what stress and pressure can do to you. Instead of trying to manage stress, I have made it my duty to release the things that are stressing me. I have discovered that what you do not release will rule your life. It is in our nature to try and fix things. However, there are some things that we just do not have the human ingenuity to fix. In those moments you have to relinquish your control and realize that not releasing the situation will rob you of peace.
- You have to learn how to rest. Rest is becoming a lost art in the twenty-first century. However, rest is vital to recharging and staying refreshed. Rest is more than just getting adequate sleep. Rest is a psychological and emotional state that you embrace as you mature in life. Rest is developing the mindset that you have to be willing to accept the things that you cannot change. In addition, you have to be willing to embrace the things you can change in your life. Rest is coming to a place of peace in your life no matter the circumstance. In essence, whatever has the power to shake you has the power to shape your destiny. Rest is trusting that the pieces of your life will come together. If you do not learn how to rest you will live a life of torment and misery. People that do not know how to rest live their lives trying to control everything. The reality is that you cannot control everything that happens in your life. However, you can choose how you respond to what happens in your life. The best way to respond is from a place of rest.
- You have to regroup and develop a new strategy. When I was dealing with the collapse of my business, I had to make a very important decision. For the first week or two I chose defeat. I was playing the role of the victim. Essentially, I spent a lot of time in those first two weeks feeling sorry for myself and living in my disappointment. In fact, I did not even want to get out of the bed. I had no sense of purpose or passion for living. It was very troubling to me because that was a feeling I had never encountered before. Finally, I was able to snap out of it and get myself together. I started regrouping and retracing my steps. I realized that if my thoughts had brought me to this point then my thoughts could also create a turning point in my life. That day I embraced gratitude and started writing out the plan to change the trajectory of my life. Notice that my path did not change until my paradigm changed. When I changed the way I looked at difficulty, that is the very moment that I changed the direction of my life. You do not need pity. All you need is the courage to change your perspective about your life. Regrouping is learning how to appreciate the good with the bad. More importantly, regrouping is making the decision to not allow one event to define you. Instead allow the events of your life to develop you for greater success.
- You have to reconnect with your purpose. Honestly, I could give you a ton of strategies for turning the tide of your life. However, I like to speak from personal experience. Data without experience will leave you stuck and unfruitful. One of the most powerful truths I learned during that season of my life was the power of purpose. In my deep pain and disappointment I learned that purpose is what gives our lives a pulse. When I started reconnecting with purpose I started to rediscover my power. I found myself rising from the ashes and reclaiming the victory in my life. Purpose saved me from a dark spiral. Purpose reminded me that my life had meaning and significance. When I reconnected with my purpose I started to realize my potential. It is impossible to stay stuck when you release your potential. Finding your purpose and fueling your potential will free you from any pit in your life. Purpose will awaken you to the greatness that is within you!