Threesomes

When you care for one person at a time, it can be all about you; when you care for two or more, focus shifts.

You see, there are many ways to think about three-way relationships, rather than choosing ideas that serve an individual or couple. Basically:

● If I am doing something to help you

● You are doing something to help a friend

● And your friend’s action helps at least one other person

then we are paying forward a good deed, rather than simply performing an act to receive. At no point is it obligatory for the next person to pass on your good deed, rather than receive and end the cycle. At each opportunity, however, love surfaces and spreads. Generosity wins. The karmic balance is in favor of a better life for you, too, as the initiator of the cycle. That can’t be why you do it, but know it’s in your favor.

The intention to give and share exists by first understanding the ‘art of allowing’.

The art of allowing refers to your ability to receive gifts, acts of kindness, and selfless behavior directed towards you; in receiving, you are actually giving, because the person who cares to reward you benefits from the ability to do so. Sometimes, the ‘most’ selfless act is to receive, and sometimes it’s to give.

I also wish to mention by practicing ‘threesome thinking’ — or larger (4+ people) — you begin to rapidly contribute towards positivity for the world as a whole. For each of your actions, you affect two lives. And if your actions are repeated even half the time, they will affect 4, then 8, and so on. The ripple effect of you helping at least two people through your thoughts, feelings, and actions is massive. And, it’s a simple switch.

Today’s thought exercise: are there two people who might enjoy a good deed from you today? It doesn’t have to be large or small; just a thought, feeling, or personal touch can do the trick in the next 5–15 minutes.

Sent to you with love, compassion, and gratitude,

Kareem


Originally published at drkareem.com on December 20, 2017.

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