To you, who just broke up

I’ve recently written a comment on Facebook for a someone who just broke up. I’m re-posting it here ( with minor modifications), so hope you will find this useful.

‘Hey, I’ve been through a few heartbreaks too.

They all hurt really really bad.

It’s like a dagger just stabbed your heart over and over again.

It’s like you can never pick yourself up from a blackhole.

I know all you can think about are the happy times. So how can you pick yourself up?

Here’s how.

You can think about what was wrong in the relationship. Analyse a bit like it’s an assignment for you.

After analysing, and facing the pain head on, you will realise the girl/guy was never really right for you.

Because if your partner really loved you that much, he/she wouldn’t have left you just because of some issues which happened.

Throughout my relationships, I realised that everyone has flaws and the only relationships that work is that you both love each other very much. Times will come where your flaws will be exposed in front of your future partners again, and they won’t be happy about it but they would stay because they love you.

Now, do you want to be with someone who doesn’t love you enough? Do you want someone who runs away when difficulties arise later in life?

The most definite answer is no.

So hold your head high, go eat some good food, meet some girls/guys, do you favourite things, meet and talk to your favourite people. Always love yourself first, don’t put yourself in sorrow for someone who doesn’t even care about you. That’s how I met my loving and caring partner after a series of heartbreaks.

And you will too. Just keep on trying. Keep on moving. Love will come as long as you love yourself and attract the right people in your life.

Coming from someone who’s been there, done that.’

P.S. Here’s 9 things you can do right now to overcome the breakup: https://medium.com/@tsevivien/throughout-my-relationships-and-seeing-how-others-make-the-most-stupid-mistakes-when-they-breakup-9c6de24a553a

P.P.S. For those who cheated/abused your partner, the above doesn’t apply. You should be sorry for what you did, and I’m glad you got dumped. Otherwise, the above article applies to the majority of us out there.

Comment below about the time your heart got broken, and how you recovered from it. Let’s give some encouragement to most of us over here.

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