We See Them As We Are

Memoirist Anais Nin said, “We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.”

What a powerful statement. The frame we put around our life might not be the truth. It’s how we see it. Which means we can also change the way we see it.

How we see things is directly related to what we have experienced, what we have read, who we have met, and where we have lived.

We create core beliefs and it’s hard to change them. Recently I read about the Backfire Effect. The article said that when our beliefs are challenged, we actually have a response like we are being physically attacked and we counteract that feeling by fighting even more for the belief. As if we are fighting for our life.

What if we decided that the belief we had to fight for was that we could do anything? That we could make all our dreams come true? That we could start a new chapter in our life story today and completely re-write the ending? What if all our fight or flight energy went into the belief that we have everything we need to be the change we wish to see?

The only thing stopping us from becoming all we need to be is the person in our head. Let’s give that person something different to fight for.

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“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are.” Anais Nin


Originally published at www.huffingtonpost.com on May 5, 2017.