What 75 Years of Guilt Looks Like

They found his 2-year-old sister dead in the cow tank. He and his sister were caught up in a game of hide and seek, and forgot to watch her.

For 75 years, that day has been engrained in my client’s brain. He was 6 years old at the time. Because his mother was busy with his newborn brother, and his dad was working in the farm fields, his mother demanded he and his sister watch the 2-year-old.

He remembers the dress his sister wore, the color of the barn, and the sick feeling in his stomach when they discovered his dead sister. At the time he couldn’t articulate his emotions. He just knew he wanted to die, to hurt himself, anything to be released from the overwhelming feeling of guilt.

Over the years, he avoided being alone with his emotions. He buried himself in school, chores, and friends. He made it his mission to always be a person of your word, finish everything you start and work yourself to death.

They all sound like great motivating mantras, to our competitive world, but what is the end result to a life motivated by guilt? How does it affect a person’s consciousness? Their perception? Their connection with others?


The book, ‘Power vs. Force,’ by David R. Hawkins, discusses the energy of human consciousness generated by certain types of emotional energy fields. Shame is the lowest energy level at 20 and enlightenment is at the high end of 700–1000 energy levels. Guilt is found at an energy level of 30, right above shame.

Dr. Hawkins discovered guilt has a profound imprint on human consciousness. According to Dr. Hawkins, “Unconscious guilt results in psychosomatic disease, accident-proneness, and suicidal behaviors.”

My client has been accident prone his entire life. From third degree burns on his legs to fracturing his hip. He has had many near death experiences. His strong subconscious patterns of guilt clouded his decision-making process. He consistently placed himself in high-risk situations. Even at the age of 80, he chose to climb a 15-foot tree to prune. He fell and ended up in the ER.


The trauma of losing his sister dramatically affected his perception. He believed his lack of follow through, lack of discipline, and lack of focus caused his sister’s death. His thoughts became beliefs. His beliefs became patterns. His patterns became his reality.

These perceptions followed him into the professional and paternal world. My client set very high standards for himself and others. This resulted in judgment of others. If his colleagues or subordinates didn’t follow through with projects or communication, he became very angry and lost respect for them.

If his kids lacked discipline or didn’t have the drive to finish what they started he became triggered and explosive.


Subconsciously my client was fearful of getting close and experiencing real authentic love. He felt he didn’t deserve it. To protect himself, he created many walls around his heart and avoided connections.

He avoided connecting with his siblings by moving away. When they had family reunions he kept the conversations superficial and light. When he was sick or injured he kept silent not wanting anyone to feel sympathy for him.

It was a challenge for my client to say he loved his kids and his wife. He subconsciously feared that they would leave him. As a grandfather, he avoided the responsibility of taking care of his grandkids. He was fearful of accidentally hurting them.

If you haven’t guessed it by now this client is my father. This last near death experience encouraged my father to pursue my advice. As a result, he understands to heal, from 75 years of guilt, he needs to come from a place of gratitude and forgiveness. His patterns are still strong, and they may never change.

After his last trip to the ER, my father went back to work. This behavior would typically trigger me into resentment. I used to be outraged and hurt that he would choose work over family. However, because I have shifted my mindset, I now have peace. I have compassion and understanding for my father and his lifetime of guilt.

Guilt is a powerful emotion. One that can steal a lifetime of authentic love and connection. If you or someone in your life is imprisoned by guilt take the necessary steps towards healing and forgiveness. It is never too late.