What are Good, Effective Boundaries in Business?
Is Your Business Open All The Time?
When we first set up our business we just LOVE what we do, we want the clients, we want to be a success so we are ACCOMMODATING to people. Before long, we can end up feeling like we are working ALL.THE.TIME!
I regularly hear from clients who
- feeling like you’re working all the time,
- needing to respond to people or emails quickly, or at ridiculous hours of day and night
- checking your phone and emails All. The. Time.
- saying yes to things you don’t want to do
- feel like people are taking advantage of you
So instead of having the dream business, they’re wondering if they’re just not cut out for this.
This is where we need to put boundaries in place. But what are good, effective boundaries in business anyway and how difficult are they going be? Short answer, not difficult at all.
Working on Structure
We must get clear on our priorities. Each of us is different. I don’t work a Monday morning. It’s Yoga time. What are yours? Work, home, family. Mine have changed over the year because mine have ALWAYS been about accommodating my children (with their special needs).
We can put the systems and structures and processes in place. Often this takes time to do. We might set up some automation, email responses, templates, online diaries. This can be about working smarter and taking the pressure off. We can hire a VA if business is good enough,
We can have structure — scheduling work in your diary, setting up contracts and working agreements, expectations….
If we’re constantly distracted by the thought of emails, clients and other work in our business structure on it’s own isn’t going to help. When we are constantly pushing ourselves and struggling with mindset we will end up being stressed and distracted. Even though we’re not active in our business, we’re thinking about it all the time. We will feel overwhelmed because we are juggling the two.
Working on our Mindset
All that pressure we feel to respond quickly, be liked has been an expected set within us from many years ago. Have a think about what messages you were given in your early life. You know the ones
Speak when you’re spoken to ..
You must work hard for success ..
Some of this is learned behaviour from authority figures, parents, teachers etc from our childhood. Some of it is due to circumstances, sometimes society expectations. When we recognise the messages you have been given then you recognise your belief systems. Then you have a choice about whether you respond to those beliefs that run around in your head.
This is working on YOUR mindset. We cannot change the mind of others. We can change our minds.
When we find a way we can comfortably communicate our boundaries, our structure and our expectation then we set that out for others in our lives. This might be clients, colleagues, family, friends.
Clear communication sets expectation, knowing what to expect, what they need to do too!
People will not know what is acceptable to us, when our business is open unless we communication clearly. Do this in a factual way to make it easier and less emotional for you.
When we have comfortable clear boundaries and structure, it keeps us feeling safe. If we have this deep feeling of I’m safe, I’m OK, then we have much less guilt, pressure and overwhelm.
Structure, mindset and communication sit hand in hand. Remember Boundaries will need adjusting through time. Boundaries are work in progress!!
Great boundaries are all about making things BETTER and EASIER for YOU. It’s not about pushing you to make things harder. Boundaries form the foundations of your business.
If you want to get clear on your boundaries, book a free assessment.
Lets talk about how we can work together on your boundaries and mindset so that you can get your priorities working for you and a create a business that you love.