What to do when you just can’t win
When you are damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.
Have you ever felt this way? Like, you really want to be successful and you are trying really hard, but it’s just not working?
Oftentimes, as a mom, I feel like everything is this confusing oxymoron.
Like, we aren’t supposed to “let ourselves go,” because that is considered lazy. But, then if we spend too much time on our appearance, we are vain, prissy, and called a MILF.
Or, we are on our phone at the playground so we get judged for not playing with our kids. But, if we hover over our kids at the playground, then we are considered a helicopter parent.
Do we let our babies co-sleep or cry it out?
Should we breastfeed or bottle-feed?
Do we work full-time or stay home with our kids?
Sometimes it feels like we just can’t win, and that’s when the self-doubt starts creeping in. Maybe even worse, it completely takes over.
And then we start hating life and hating everyone.
Being successful comes from within
But, the reason we feel that way is because there is a very valid justification for us to make these seemingly very different, personal choices.
The thing is that these seemingly opposing choices aren’t really that different at all. They all have one major thing in common, and that is that it’s what’s best for us, at that moment in time.
Kids are different. Families are different. Circumstances are different. And, we are capable of making educated, conscientious decisions for us. We don’t need outside validation for that.
So, we are only “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” if we let others convince us of it.