When Life Isn’t Fair and People Aren’t Nice

Even with the odds seemingly stacked against us, this is how we can heal a broken and wounded humanity.

If life was fair and people were nice the world would be a much better place. But guess what? Life isn’t fair and people aren’t nice. So what are we going to do about it?

I had the rare opportunity to visit with a 91 year old women the other day. She described her world growing up. She told me of how her family lived on a forty-acre farm with no electricity, no phone, no running water and no automobiles.

I asked her what she thought was the most significant change she had seen in the world during her lifetime. I was on the edge of my seat chomping at the bit over what her answer might be.

Scientific discoveries? Medical breakthroughs? Technological advancements?

What would she say? You could hear a pin drop.

And then…..

People,” she said.

“The most significant change I’ve seen in the world is people. They just don’t care like they used to.”

She went on to describe how her family, even though they lived on 40 acres, knew their neighbors. When one neighbor was in need the other neighbors pitched in to help.

When one of the Fathers were sick and couldn’t do the chores around their farm, the other neighbors would all get together and make sure everything was done until that Dad could recover and return to his duties.


Everything we deal with in this world is due to humanity. The last time I looked in the mirror, I am that humanity. And so are you.

When we boil down fights, arguments, wars, terror, tragedies, (like Las Vegas) we always come to the same conclusion — humanity.

Someone once said the world would be a much better place if it weren’t for people. (I tend to agree)

A fight doesn’t break out on it’s own; people get into fights. Cars don’t get into road rage; people do. Wars don’t start on their own, people start wars.

People, not things, friend, cause the world to change — for the better or for the worse.

But because Life is all we have and Humanity isn’t going to go away anytime soon, what do we do?


We become to others what we wish others would be to us.

Life isn’t fair, and people aren’t nice, but in spite of the odds, seemingly stacked against us, we can still win. How?


That’s right. Forgiveness.

The greatest act of human forgiveness was demonstrated by the Man who called himself Jesus. Hanged for a crime he didn’t commit, and not just hanged, but beaten unrecognizably, when given the chance to speak in his own defence, he uttered…

Forgive them Father for they know not what they do.”

OMG — I wonder how many of us could utter those same words when we come face to face with the unfairness of life or the bitterness of other people? (I know my head is bowed in shame)

But guess what, the world doesn’t need another Savior, according to some, One has already been provided.

Obedience, friend, is better than sacrifice.

Obedience to the wisdom of the ages that, I believe if followed, could turn the unfairness of life and the bitterness of humanity into a more loving, helping, generous world once again for us all.

And, hey, if you’re just not that into to changing the world thing, then I sure know LOVE could help heal our lives, mend our families, and strengthen our businesses, not to mention make each of us a stronger and better human being.

The Master Teacher, Jesus, taught his followers that they should respond to people who hurt them after this manner:

“Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. If someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other also.

Do to others as you would have them do to you.”

And not just Jesus, but all throughout history countless of other people have given their lives for causes greater than their own in hopes that one day the world, your world, our world, would change.


Don’t like it when someone talks smack about you? Don’t talk smack about someone else. Don’t like it when someone cuts you off on the freeway or jacks your parking spot? Don’t do it to someone else.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto to you.

The greatest strength ever demonstrated in the face of hate and evil, is LOVE!

Love is the ONLY cure; the way to heal our world. Love is the ONLY way to heal our schools. Love is the ONLY way to heal our families. Love is the ONLY way to begin getting this giant blue planet spinning in a different direction.

And the power to do that, friend, is in each and every one of us.

“Give evil nothing to oppose and it will disappear by itself.” 
Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

Think about it. You have the power to change the future course of your world by engaging in one simple act each day for the rest of your life…LOVE.

Each day, Friend, we are either a part of the problem or the solution. I challenge you, and myself, to be a part of the solution.

NO MATTER how bad it hurts, swallow your pride, resist the urge to pay an eye for an eye, forgive those who hurt you, and rise above the hate.

Do not engage in revenge, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine sayeth God. I will repay.”

Remember: We empower what we don’t want by giving attention to it.

The next time someone hurts you, forgive them. Pray for them. Bless them. And keep on moving.

Friend, life isn’t fair and people aren’t nice, but you and I can do something about that by being the change we desire to see!

When you put your head on your pillow tonight, before closing your eyes, forgive someone who has wronged you, bless someone who has cursed you, and pray for someone you know is hurting.

Be to someone else what you wish someone else would be to you.