When Trust Leads to More Money

3 Simple Tools

One of the key components to having a good relationship with money is having a good relationship with yourself. That means that you really trust yourself.

Trust that you can make good decisions.
Trust that you can succeed and achieve goals
Trust that you have all you need inside you

In my experience, women tend to doubt themselves more than men. There is fear of failing, or stepping on someone’s toes, or even shining too brightly.

All of these behaviors are counter-intuitive to having a good relationship with money. Hello Eunice! (I call everyone Eunice btw)……this is gonna keep you stuck! Money stuck, life stuck, relationship stuck!

And sadly money stuck may mean that we have trouble keeping the money we have and blocking money from flowing into our lives.

L️isted below are three of my favorite ways to help you start building trust in yourself so that your relationship with money can begin to grow too.

Be Decisive

Trusting yourself and a good money relationship like celery and peanut butter. They go together perfectly!

One of the best ways to start trusting yourself is to be decisive.

No more questioning every decision.
No more changing you mind over and over……

I often share that the BEST decision I ever made was the one where I decided I wasn’t going to be like my parents and struggle with money. That day, I was decisive. And it changed my life and my relationship with money.

Being decisive is about sticking with the decisions you make and living with the consequences. When something doesn’t turn out the way you planned, it doesn’t mean it was the wrong decision. It just means that you have an opportunity to grow and learn and also know that you will make a better decision next time.

Decisiveness is going to build trust in yourself. Other people will see that and trust you more. Money will see that and flow more freely in your life.

Celebrate and Use Your Strengths

We all have strengths. Every single one of us. I know sometimes it feels like we don’t….ya know why? Likely we are comparing ourselves to others.

One of the best ways to start trusting yourself is to start celebrating and using your strengths. Stop striving to be like someone else. Be you.

When you are celebrating and using your strengths on a regular basis, you build confidence. That confidence is going to change how you feel about your money and it sure is gonna strengthen that relationship too!

Have you ever experienced a situation where you felt super confident and found that other people AND money were drawn to you? Earlier this year, I experienced something like that. I had been working with my business coach on really focusing on my strengths (hello Eunice….money and numbers) and figuring out how to use them in my business. Within days of doing that work and building that confidence in myself, I had a new part-time job that fit my strengths, but also gave me freedom to pursue my dreams. This change created the space for money to flow into my life in a completely unexpected, but beautiful way.

Set small specific goals

One of the big ways that trust can grow is accomplishment.

Big goals are great and definitely a big part of success. However, both with myself and my clients, I’ve found that breaking that big goal down into smaller chunks is the perfect recipe for MORE success. Breaking that goal down, lets you get really specific. That is going to set you up for success!

For example, you may have a BIG goal of saving $1M. This big goal can seem way out of reach and practically impossible. In fact, you may just say forget it! But if you start small, it is totally possible.

Start with saving $100. Set a goal to save that amount and a date to have it completed. I bet starting with $100 feels way more doable, right?

By setting yourself small, specific money goals — within your larger goal — you are creating an environment for success.

That right there is going to grow your self-trust!

One of the things I’ve seen with my money mindset clients is that they question their decisions around money. In fact, one client shared with me that sometimes she questions a decision so much that she NEVER makes a decision, and sometimes she thinks about it so long, she loses the opportunity.

This cycle was frustrating and keeping her stuck. She just wanted to be able to make a decision already and stop thinking about it.

Does this sound like you? Do you waver in your money decisions? Do you question every cent you spend and struggle with knowing whether or not you are doing the right thing? This is one of the things I work on with my clients to help them build more trust in themselves and release themselves from decision anxiety. Isn’t that what we all want?

Sherry Parks is a Money Mindset Coach who helps women escape feeling stuck and trapped by their finances, so that they find more joy and wealth for their lives. Check out her 5 Steps to a Better Money Story workbook here.

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