Why To Absolutely Be YOU
Let the Giggles Flow
Have you ever felt like there are parts of you that are just wrong? Is there some part of your personality that you don’t like and you hold it back, not letting others see it fully?
Maybe you feel too vulnerable to show it.
Maybe you have been scorned by others for showing it.
Whatever the reason, I think sometimes we hold back parts of ourselves. But is it really ok to hide a part of your personality? Is it okay to inhibit your natural reaction and not allow it to shine forth?
I am a giggler. I have always been prone to laughter and giggling. This is a part of my personality that I have often felt like others shunned. Even as a small child, I remember being shushed. I was always making too much noise (giggles and laughter) at the dinner table. I was too loud while the TV was playing an important ballgame or newscast. I was giggling with my friends at church (and not necessarily during the service).
Even as an adult, I remember times laughing joyously at something in a public place and being shushed because others were looking and “being bothered” by me.
This even extended to my professional career. But by then my laughter had turned to giggles and they were “nervous” or “emotional” giggles. You see, even if I truly felt like laughing at something, I felt it was going to be perceived as inappropriate. In fact, I have been told that my nervous or emotional giggles are not appropriate and not professional enough. This didn’t help me. In fact, it made the situation worse.
If I couldn’t be myself and laugh and giggle when I wanted, who was I going to be? How was I going to express the joy and other emotions I had? Trying to control that part of me, led me to bottling it up and then it would escape in a “nervous” giggle at maybe the wrong time. Or maybe it wasn’t the wrong time, but to others it wasn’t the right time.
As I’ve become an entrepreneur I have found that nerves and uncertainty tend to come out in giggles. Not because I necessarily want to giggle, but I’ve held myself back from expressing my true feelings for so many years, that I find I am nervous. I am unsure of my path. I am unsure of my reactions. And most assuredly that leads to nerves that can escape only through a giggle or two. In fact, it has been a huge elephant on my back during my sales calls. It seems that when it came time to make the “pitch” for my services, I was getting so nervous, that I would simply start to giggle. And it was all downhill from there. How could I explain my service with confidence if I had these nervous giggles? In fact, the fear of giggling got so bad that I didn’t “pitch” to anyone for several months! Yikes! That is no way to earn a living!
Someone recently suggested to me that my laughter and giggling is actually a strength. It’s not a weakness or something to hide from. It is the ability to find joy in life that can sometimes be difficult and heartbreaking. I still have joy, I still have laughter and I still show the world that it is possible to have joy in the face of a lot of negatives.
Wow. I had this lightbulb moment. Laughter is warm and inviting. It helps others feel welcome and relaxed. It helps them relate to me as a human being. I am a person that is like them and someone who is open to showing how they feel.
What will happen if I start embracing this part of me? What if I release the tension and just be me? I think that making a shift like that is going to allow me to make the deeper connections that I desire. It’s going to let people see who I really am. But most importantly, it’s going to let me feel truly free. I laugh. It’s okay. In fact, it’s perfect. I’m perfect.
What about you? Do you have your “giggle” factor that you are afraid will come out when you least want it to? Are you afraid to let all of your personality shine because others have judged you in the past? Consider this, what would your life be like if you let those parts shine too? Would you feel free? I’d love to hear about your version of the “giggles”. Comment below and share your story with me.
Sherry Parks is a Wellness Coach who helps career women escape feeling trapped and out of control in their work life, so that they are happy on their own terms and have joy and excitement for their life. Grab her Free PDF, Top Tips for Successful Food Cleansing, here.
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