Why You Can’t Afford to Wait
How the “Perfect Moment” is Keeping You Small.
“I’m going to push through a little bit longer and see how it goes.”
“After summer is a better time for a big move.”
“I need a bit more experience before I can try that.”
Have you ever been guilty of saying any of those things? I know I have.
You’ve probably heard my stance on “The Joy of the Jump” and how we should “Seek Progress, Not Perfection”, but I want to take a moment and address the safety mechanism of waiting. Through the clients I’ve worked with, in addition to those people I’ve spoken to who want a change but “aren’t quite ready for it yet”, I’ve heard a lot about this.
However, waiting isn’t much more than a glorified excuse.
Waiting keeps us small. Waiting makes us think that it’s not us who is the issue, but just “time”, “convenience”, or other reasons outside of ourselves. That is what’s holding us back — not ourselves. This is comforting, because you can never be at fault if there’s a reason outside of yourself…right?
Taking ownership of your success and your failures is an essential step in pursuit of a rewarding life. Attributing the fact that you haven’t pursued something you’re passionate about to bad timing or needing to make a stable income all comes back to limiting beliefs and staying in the comfort zone. It’s OK to be there temporarily, but please don’t pretend that it’s anyone but you keeping you there.
I’m not saying we always need to throw caution to the wind, but it’s important to consider how badly you want what you say you’re pursuing. If you’re not willing to take a big step for it, you may be more committed to safety and comfort than you are to your dream. Take that in for a moment, because it’s a doozy.
Yes, summer may not be “the right time”, or it would be more convenient for you to wait for fall, but if you keep waiting for 3 months at a time, all of a sudden you’ll find yourself a year down the road and wonder how you got there. That’s a pretty grim place to be.
I know this because I straddled the line of jumps for some time until I stopped making excuses. For a long time I had plenty of reasons to not start the things I hoped for: money, time, other priorities. When I got that in check, though, I started my business in a new state where I knew only a handful of people, while I was planning a wedding, and while we were moving into our first house we ever purchased. It was terrifying, but I couldn’t be happier for that decision. That decision was only because I knew I couldn’t turn over my time to the excuse of waiting for the perfect moment. It’s what I look for in clients too, as that’s only who I work with: the people who want it so bad that they know every missed moment is a moment wasted.
So, if you want to make big moves what can you do?
Surround yourself with other people pursuing their dreams. Make sure you take inventory of your network to sort out those who make excuses of inopportune time. Find people to push you to go further. That’s why I have a coach and I tout the benefits of coaching and networking groups — I have some pretty strong will-power, but I know that I’m not an island alone. I choose to surround myself by others who are strong, passionate, and brave, so that I can draw out more of that in myself.
I’m rolling out a group coaching program this summer for exactly that reason. I can make a big impact with people 1x1, but there are so many women who want to finally pursue their dreams for nobody but themselves, and those women are a force to be reckoned with. I’m building a tribe so that they can not only receive my guidance, but each others. That is the strongest thing we can do for each other.
Take stock of who you’re surrounding yourself with today and if they’re pushing you to wait for the perfect moment, or be the best version of you. You might be surprised at what you find and who gets the axe.