Why You Should Love Positive Thinking
One Secret to Fully Enjoying Your Best Life
Have you ever thought that you’d like things to be like they were in years gone by? Have you wished for people and their values to be similar to what they were in the past?
Over the past month or so, I’ve been working on house projects getting ready to sell and move to the beach. This week as I was working on my final, arduous project I began thinking about a woman I knew when I was a teenager. She was an eccentric older lady from the neighborhood we lived in after my parents divorced. We moved to this tiny community up the holler (that is the hollow between the mountains for those of you not familiar with WV lingo). The entire road was a mile long and no more than 25 homes.
Anyway, the woman that came to mind was Lily. Lily was quite the character with strong opinions about things. She didn’t like animals, but she LOVED flowers. She had a strong hatred for certain weeds and she worked constantly to eradicate the entire world of those specific weeds. She almost always wore the scruffiest, out of style clothes with big boots. But let me tell you, when she dressed up, she was priceless! Bright colors, big hats, lace and ruffles and jewelry. Oh and the lipstick. Shewee it was bold and bright! She was a sight to behold!
This little holler of ours was full of friendly people who watched out for each other. And one of those was Lily. What struck me about Lily and what brought her to my mind this week was that she was strong and fierce and stood firm on her own personal set of standards. Those standards included a strong desire to help other women.
My mom was trying to make her way as a single parent of five with very little financial support. She managed to purchase a home (owner financed), but it needed a lot of work. It was built during the Depression era and the walls were cardboard covered with wallpaper. Yes, you read that correctly. Cardboard covered with wallpaper and sometimes newspaper. Not a great way to keep the heat in and the cold out (as well as other things like creepy, crawly critters!). And certainly not the type of place Mom wanted to raise her babies.
Mom had a lot of people helping her during that time frame, but Lily stands out in my mind because she just saw a need and she met it. She came with her hammer and she started to work. She helped mom with whatever home improvement project she was working on at the moment. One of those projects was removing the cardboard and hanging drywall and building closets in the upstairs for my sister and me. It wasn’t an easy task because of the roof slope and it certainly required a lot of work. But Lily pitched right in and helped my mom get it done.
She didn’t talk much and she didn’t smile much. And I imagine in her mind she was following the code of conduct that she set for her life. She saw a need (and it may not have been a need that others saw) and she helped. There may not have been any rhyme or reason as to why she chose to help my mom, but in her mind it was the right thing to do.
I’ve said to myself several times over the past weeks that I need an Lily. A fierce, strong woman who just comes in and helps me get this job done! Not because I am incapable or because I couldn’t complete these house projects. But because it is a long lonely road to work so hard on things that you really don’t have the skill set and aptitude for. I was longing for someone to bounce ideas off of and hold the ladder and stuff like that. It would have been so nice if someone would have shown up and said, I am here. Let me help you.
I asked my mom to share some more of the good things that Lily might have done that I didn’t know about or can’t remember. You know what is funny? My mom totally had a different memory of Lily. She talked about all the negative or hurtful things that Lily did and said and NEVER even mentioned the drywall project or anything else!
Isn’t it amazing what we remember? I find it so fascinating that two people can have such different perspectives on another human being. As I’ve been thinking about that, I realized that I have chosen to look at the world in a different way. I choose to look for the good in people. I choose to keep my mind and heart focused on the positive in my own life as well as in the people that surround me.
It’s like the work I do with my clients. The majority of that work is helping these wonderful women look at their health, wellness, money and life from a different perspective so that they can actually get the results they want like better health and financial happiness with ease! Instead of seeing the negative, I guide them toward seeing the positive. And if they can’t see it, then guess what! I can see it. I hold that space for them of a positive, beautiful world where they get to live the life they want on their own terms and find health, happiness and joy, and with my help, they create it!
What kind of things are you missing in your world? What just feels too negative for words? Comment below, I’d love to hear your story and help you reframe it!
Sherry Parks is a Wellness Coach who helps career women escape feeling trapped and out of control in their work life, so that they are happy on their own terms and have joy and excitement for their life. Grab her Free PDF, Top Tips for Successful Food Cleansing, here.
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