Worry About Your Own Grass
Be too busy working on their own grass to notice if anyone else’s is greener.
Sometimes it can seem like the grass is greener on the other side.
In fact, I think the actual quote says the grass is always greener.
It might seem that way, but it’s just not true.
It’s tough, I get it.
We live in a social media driven world where we’re constantly being shown content of people who have more money than us, more fancy things, a more ‘perfect’ body… you name it.
With all of this at the touch of our fingers every single day, it’s easy to get caught in the trap of upward social comparison.
To use myself as an example, I run a small marketing agency and I’m constantly bombarded with ads on Facebook of entrepreneurs with insanely exaggerated headlines…
“3 Easy Steps To Making $x Every Month”
“The Simple Trick To Unlock Your Earning Potential”
Under a picture of them leaning against their luxurious cars, expensive watches, and designer suits.
And by the way — I’m not a materialistic person.
I don’t like suits or expensive clothing.
I think watches are extremely redundant.
And I don’t think luxury cars get me from point A to point B any more efficiently than my 2010 Hyundai Sonata.
Yet, I still find myself comparing these people to me and wondering exactly what it is they’re doing that I’m not.
Whether we want to admit it or not, we’re all doing this every single day.
Whether you realize it or not, unconsciously or consciously, you’re always comparing yourself to others — friends, family, co-workers, people you walk by on the street, and people you see online.
It’s our natural human instinct to compare ourselves to others as a way to assess threats to our survival.
But in the modern society we live in today, it’s not such a great thing to be doing all the time.
When we focus on others and their accomplishments, their possessions, or their beauty instead of our own, we often start to build up feelings of resentment and jealousy.
But the fact of the matter is that focusing on others isn’t going to help us improve ourselves.
Sure, it’s good to have goals and push ourselves. Even to have someone to look up to and admire.
But admiration and respect are much different than jealousy and envy.
When we focus on others, we might start to feel sorry for ourselves — blaming our circumstances for our ‘shortcomings’ instead of taking responsibility.
That’s why when people criticize others, it’s often more telling about the criticizer than the criticized — showing their own insecurities by trying to point out those of others.
One person I look up to, Gary Vaynerchuk, is a huge New York Jets fan.
He doesn’t hesitate to make it known that he hates Tom Brady and the New England Patriots.
And you know why?
Because Brady and the Patriots are good and the Jets are not.
It’s his way of expressing jealousy.
But what we should be doing instead is worrying about ourselves, instead of about others.
See The Glass Half Full
Like I said, it’s healthy to have goals and something to strive for — but don’t let it bring you down personally and start acting out of hate instead of love.
For every person out there who (seemingly) has it better than you, there’s at least one other person who has it worse.
It’s funny how we tend to always compare ourselves to others who we view as ahead of us rather than behind.
We naturally tend to make upward social comparisons instead of down.
We see the glass half empty instead of the glass half full.
So be mindful about comparing yourself to others — don’t just say I wish I had this, or I wish I did that.
Instead, be grateful!
Even though I just threw Gary Vaynerchuk under the New England Patriots bus to be run over by Bill Belichick and the rest of his haters, he constantly preaches about the most important thing in life…
Be grateful for who you are instead of hateful for what you aren’t.
It could always be worse — so be grateful it isn’t!
You could have gotten into a car accident today, your wallet could have been stolen, you could have cut yourself this morning when you were cutting your bagel, you could have pneumonia or some other illness.
They say you don’t know what you’ve got until it’s gone.
I say, be grateful for what you have while you have it!
Be thankful that you’re the person you are and for the situation you’re in each and every day and let that fill you up with love and appreciation instead of hate and envy.
Always choose positivity — always see the glass half full instead of half empty.
When you don’t and you start complaining “woe is me” and feeling sorry for yourself, you’re giving yourself excuses.
And excuses don’t move us forward, action does.
So don’t be sad that you don’t have the body, income, car, lifestyle, or [enter anything else here] — go do something about it!
When you’re constantly focused on other people and how green their grass is, you’re wasting time that you could be spending on your own grass!
Stop looking over the fence at other people’s grass and start working on your own.
And don’t forget to be grateful you have grass in the first place.