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Don’t go grocery shopping when you’re hungry.

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You’re probably familiar with the advice, “Don’t go grocery shopping when you’re hungry.”

The same logic could be applied to dating.

If you use dating apps when you’re lonely, you’re likely to pick unsuitable people to date. …


Quality over quantity.

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What is “intimate”? It means familiar, private, and personal.


A practical guide to communicating your needs and boundaries

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You probably have heard of the advice, “Respond, not react.”


A logical explanation and a practical solution.

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There are many reasons why a person might have a low sense of self-worth. Regardless, it can negatively affect every area of their life.


Reward actions, not words.

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In the dating world, future fakers are people who sell the idea of a future to get what they want in the present.


You might want to combine both.

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After a break-up, you often feel a sense of loss. You might know deep down that you need to move on, but it doesn’t always come easily to you. You’re overwhelmed by many different emotions and scared to face your new reality without your (now ex) partner.


He might genuinely believe it’s what he needs, but don’t buy it.

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When a guy says he wants a strong woman, he might believe that he does, but don’t buy it.

“How do you know you’re not Cool Girl? Because he says things like: ‘I like strong women.’ If he says that to you, he will at some point fuck someone else. Because ‘I like strong women’ is code for ‘I hate strong women.’”

At the time the movie was out, I was barely 20.


Let’s admit it — it’s hard to be a human in 2020.

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Healthy self-esteem is essential to living a happy life. But it’s not always easy to build and maintain it, especially when social media make it seem like everyone is doing better than us. Worse, the pandemic has shaken up our sense of normality and security, filling us with deep anxiety about the near future.


There’s a critical difference between what you want and what you need.

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To those of you who keep choosing unsuitable people to date, let me illustrate your dating approach through this simple analogy.

Let’s say your goal relationship is a movie script and you’re the casting director for this movie.

Your goal relationship means a relationship that meets your expectations, boundaries, standards, and needs.


Is your new relationship heading towards toxic territory? The answer is in you.

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Dating is supposed to be fun, but navigating a dating pool full of undateable people is neither fun nor easy.

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