Tingly Mind
Empowering life and relationship advice

Tingly Mind is an online publication that offers empowering life and relationship advice. Our content is geared towards women in general and heterosexual women in particular.

After all, regardless of gender, we serve the people who value security and stability in life. If you want to become a solid individual with healthy, meaningful relationships, you’re at the right place.

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What “elegant” Youtubers don’t tell you

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Nowadays, if you look on Youtube, there are plenty of Youtube channels that teach women how to be “elegant”, which is often associated with “high society” and hypergamy.

In fact, if you use the search term “How to be elegant”, you’ll see videos after videos of mostly White women teaching other women how to dress, talk, walk, eat, or even paint their nails.

These materials are now easily accessible online, making it seem like it’s attainable by everyone. Some might even argue that you can be elegant on a budget. …

Be unapologetic about your feelings.

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Photo by Allef Vinicius on Unsplash

Here I am again, writing about yet another failed attempt at a relationship.

The only difference this time is that I did let my walls come down and, as expected, it came back to bite me.

Do I regret allowing myself to feel?

Absolutely not.

Do I like when people underestimate how I feel because it was a short-lived affair?

Also, absolutely not.

How is it that when someone breaks up after a short relationship is somehow less deserving of feeling bad about it? Does the length of a relationship really define its intensity? And how do people know what that time meant to you?

Yes, dating sucks. Tell me something I didn’t know already!

I have been in the game for…

My fear of being alone was costly.

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I stayed in my marriage for years beyond I should have.

Why? I never thought I could find someone like her again. We were married for 7 years before our marriage unraveled. It was in the fateful 7th year when we did separate and ultimately divorce.

All of my biggest fears about love unfolded at that time. I was losing someone special and would never be able to find someone like her again. I was losing out on a great person and it was all my fault. It would be impossible to meet other people that came close to who…

You find it hard to say no.

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Three months into the relationship, I knew something wasn’t right. My mind told me to run as soon as possible, yet it’s harder to convince my heart that it wasn’t the right person for me.

Have you ever wondered why everything seems to be at your fault? Even though you aren’t sure what you have done wrong? Yup. I knew that feeling well.

One day feels so great, and another day feels like you are living in hell. “What the heck is actually happening?” you asked yourself that question a lot.

Unfortunately, it’s hard to see it when you are…


Let me be brutally honest.

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Dear men,

My lady friends are amazing women — intelligent, funny, caring, loving, financially capable, highly educated, beautiful inside out (I could go on), and truly need no man.

But, since I’ve been advocating for having healthy and happy romantic relationships and I do believe in good men, they’re open to the possibility of one and will be taking applications. Good for you!

Not so quick, though. Because your applications will, at some point, be reviewed by me and absolutely need my approval stamp before you can progress to the next stage.

Now, you know I’m a no-nonsense relationship writer…

I wasn’t as powerless as I thought.

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A common worry I’ve heard from many women is whether it’s normal to get to a certain age without ever having had a serious relationship and whether it would affect their chance of getting into one. They’re also afraid that being single for a long time reflects poorly on their value in the dating market.

There was a time I felt that same way. I asked myself why I couldn’t have the thing I wanted the most — being loved. …

You believe your ex was your soulmate.

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It took me an unusually long time to let go of my marriage. After the divorce, I spent years of my life stuck in the past, ruminating about my ex and trying to think about the good old days of the past.

Even after the divorce decree had been signed and years had passed, I still had some thoughts of wanting to get back together with my ex. Being the eternal optimist, I thought we still had a shot and could have overcome our many differences. “If we could just do this one more thing…” I regularly thought to myself.

No one could take away my reality.

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My college boyfriend hurt me, and I didn’t confront him about it.

I broke up with him but was never truthful about why. I told him that I wanted to focus on school and I wasn’t interested in a long-distance relationship with him, but really, he violated me in a way that was irreparable. The relationship was over, and he didn’t totally understand why, but he eventually left.

I wasn’t ready to tell him how I felt about what he did. We briefly spoke about the incident afterward, but he showed no signs of remorse or that anything out of…

The right ones stay by choice.

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The other day, someone sent me an email sharing about themselves and their failed relationships. They ended it with an earnest question, “How do I keep people in my life?”

I thought about it. Naturally, I reflected on my own life.

I remember many times crying silently in the night, clenching my fists in deep emotional pain as I asked myself that same question. I was hurt and frustrated that nothing ever went my way. In my mind, I was always the one left behind, holding on in vain and ending up with nothing.

My life now is completely different…

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