Tingly Mind
Empowering life and relationship advice

Tingly Mind is an online publication that offers empowering life and relationship advice. Our content is geared towards women in general and heterosexual women in particular.

After all, regardless of gender, we serve the people who value security and stability in life. If you want to become a solid individual with healthy, meaningful relationships, you’re at the right place.

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No one could take away my reality.

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My college boyfriend hurt me, and I didn’t confront him about it.

I broke up with him but was never truthful about why. I told him that I wanted to focus on school and I wasn’t interested in a long-distance relationship with him, but really, he violated me in a way that was irreparable. The relationship was over, and he didn’t totally understand why, but he eventually left.

I wasn’t ready to tell him how I felt about what he did. We briefly spoke about the incident afterward, but he showed no signs of remorse or that anything out of…

The right ones stay by choice.

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The other day, someone sent me an email sharing about themselves and their failed relationships. They ended it with an earnest question, “How do I keep people in my life?”

I thought about it. Naturally, I reflected on my own life.

I remember many times crying silently in the night, clenching my fists in deep emotional pain as I asked myself that same question. I was hurt and frustrated that nothing ever went my way. In my mind, I was always the one left behind, holding on in vain and ending up with nothing.

My life now is completely different…

Be honest about what you want.

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Meeting the world with an open mind is a good thing, usually. But when it comes to dating, it can open up whole cans of worms.

And those worms can quickly burrow under your skin, causing trauma.

That might seem alarmist, but we have to be realistic here. Dating involves allowing other people into your life — and often your heart, with little background information.

When we take time to weigh up the pros and cons of dating someone, we are dismissed as ‘too picky’. As though everyone should just see how it goes, because “you never know”.

But when…

Authenticity is key.

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When it comes to attractiveness, people often think about improving their physical appearance. But attractiveness is perceived based on a lot more than just looks.

For example, showing certain personality characteristics, such as humor and intelligence, can make you more appealing to the opposite sex, and it’s true for both men and women across different cultures. Also, if you have similar values and beliefs as someone’s, they’re likely to like you more.

Even in Hollywood, there are many stars who might not be considered “conventionally good looking” but are lusted after by many. …

Your “Boaz” is in short supply.

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You see, I wasn’t born evangelical, but I became a part of the movement in my early 20’s after I became more serious with my faith.

Then I relocated to England and plugged myself into a local church. By then, I became fully immersed in the evangelical church culture.

Like every young girl at that age, every woman around me and I had one thing in mind — meeting and marrying a godly man who will lead us as Christ leads his church. Men that are believers, as some of us, had dated non-believers in the past.

We were inundated…

Advice that will get you back the power over your life.

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Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you thought that your feelings don’t have legitimacy?

I guess many of you will answer these questions with yes. Welcome to the club!

Recently, I experienced a romantic liaison with a man I really liked. Because of long-distance, lockdowns, and other incidents, it seemed unlikely that we would ever have the possibility to get to know each other better. Additionally, I got the feeling that our priorities were just too different.

It bothered me that we were still in contact even though we knew that our connection would lead nowhere.


I’m tired of being asked to lean in, hustle harder, or game the system.

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I’m writing this for the marginalised people, the people who are different, the people who face setbacks due to things completely out of their control, the people who have to try twice as hard to get half as much.

I’m also writing this for myself, as an Asian woman living in a foreign country for almost ten years.

Many of us have put so much effort into changing our circumstances, but still, we’re not immune to the injustice of the world. Bad things happen to us, yet we can’t really explain it or hold anyone accountable. …

If you ever wonder, I have an insight.

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I used to put a man’s love on a pedestal.

I grew up believing in the myth that if a man treats you like shit, he just doesn’t love you enough; if he loves you enough, he will treat you like the queen.

And so, I tried hard to earn a man’s love, but I was never sure if I was good enough for it. Well, I never felt like I was enough for my father’s love. I thought it was all my fault, and it fucked me up for a really long time.

The majority of my early twenties…

“Divine feminine” is toxic.

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Hypergamy tells women to embrace a soft nature.

They tell women not to talk too much, to cater to a man’s ego, to ‘level up’, and to use their pretty privilege as a means to an end. The end being to bag a wealthy man or a ‘high-value man’ as they prefer to call it.

While I am not against women taking care of themselves, looking nice, and if they choose, looking for a way to level up their look, there is something about this philosophy that doesn’t sit well with me.

I remember the first time I stumbled upon…

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