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The ins and outs of healthy boundaries
The other day I binged on Gilmore Girls (again).
And though I enjoy the series’ quick bantering and pop culture references, I regularly groan about the characters’ lack of respect for the people around them.
In other words, they have no boundaries.
There was one scene that really struck me.
It’s where the protagonist Lorelai comes home to find her mother waiting for her at her house.
She has come to give Lorelai some “friendly advice” about her marriage. Lorelai says she doesn’t want any of that, but her mother ignores this by saying: “Well, then consider it unfriendly advice”.
What?
This is the ultimate example of invading someone’s personal space — and not even caring about it. …
It will encourage sensuality and adventure.
When was the last time you and your significant other did something new and exciting as a couple? How about trying something sexy and invigorating?
Here’s an idea: Hire a professional boudoir photographer to capture sensual moments and memories of your partner and you together! It would make for a fun date!
Why a boudoir photoshoot?
This experience will encourage sensuality and adventure, teach you how let-go and be in the moment, and look at one another through a new lens.
If you think this idea suits your relationship (I wouldn’t recommend doing this with someone you’ve just gone on a couple of dates with), here are a few things you will need to consider before embarking on this journey. …
How to deal with each type
“Intimate relationships are contingent on honesty and openness. They are built and maintained through our faith that we can believe what we are being told.”
Trust and honesty are the glue that holds a relationship together.
Trust goes hand in hand with other elements of a healthy relationship, like respect, security, and openness. Without it, the foundation of a relationship becomes weak and unstable and can easily crumble under pressure and animosity.
There are a lot of different reasons why you may fail to trust a partner and vice versa:
- Infidelity in past or current relationships
- A family history of deception and…
I used to be a walking contradiction.
Freedom is a very interesting thing. It can give us a sense of autonomy, a feeling of great power. But, sometimes, it has the power to set us adrift. And I’ll wager you have flipped both sides of the coin, right?
Before I met my partner, I was a walking contradiction. I wanted to be free, roaming my own way. I also harboured a desire to meet that special someone who has my back, understands me, and wants what I want from life.
My dating history, like many around the world, has been tumultuous at best.
I’ve hurt people, I’ve been hurt. And I never quite figured out which side I would rather be on. The guilt of breaking someone’s heart is just too awful to bear. Yet, the heartache involved when someone doesn’t want you…well, that sucks endlessly. …
It works like a mirror.
Many of us have experienced searching for love in the wrong places: seeking external love, acceptance, and approval instead of self-love and self-acceptance.
Why does it have to take heartbreak for some of us to learn that lack of self-love can lead to toxic relationships?
The truth is if you’re seeking growth and companionship with your partner, or in any other type of relationship, then self-love must be actualized before you can truly love someone else.
That said, for many, loving yourself is actually hard to do.
Self-Love in Medieval Arthurian Romance
This premise is nothing new and dates as far back as medieval Arthurian romance tales, such as Chretien de Troyes’ Erec and Enide.
In applying the theories of Thomas Aquinas and Julia Kristeva to the tale, the lovers are plagued by self-depredation, self-deprivation, and narcissism before actualizing self-love, resulting in the maturation of their union. …
Do women lose value as they age?
The book “Invisible Women” opened my eyes to a world designed for men and biased against women. It was shocking, not because I haven’t experienced first-hand some of these biases, but because they’re so much more ingrained and systematic than I had thought.
Well, awareness is the first step towards real changes.
Here are 6 outdated and sexist ideas or standards about the roles and values of women in modern society:
1. Women can’t be happy without men.
It’s a common cultural message that women need a man and a marriage more than men, and so they often have to try to manipulate or pressure their male partner to marry them. …
This dating-break is the best gift I’ve ever given to myself.
Shortly after my break-up last year I got to know someone I really liked (and still like).
As I was feeling so terribly sad and lonely, this sudden acquaintance helped me to escape from my grief. I’m still very thankful for the great days and nights I spent with him. Having someone interested in me gave me the feeling that there was more to life than my last relationship.
My ex-boyfriend was traveling and hanging out with the girl he got to know during the last months of our relationship. She is his new girlfriend now, but that’s another story.
Anyway, I was convinced that I had to move on as quickly as possible. …
Any privilege associated with being a woman seems to be a double-edged sword.
Growing up, I received many mixed messages about what it meant to be a woman.
My goal, as a young girl, was simple: I wanted to be loved.
But I didn’t really understand what I had to do to be loved, especially when my own father practically abandoned me a long time ago.
He instilled in me the insecurity that, no matter what I did to be loved, it probably wouldn’t work. When I was a bit older, as a result, I struggled to relate to men romantically. I didn’t know how to be good enough for a man’s love.
That helpless feeling followed me throughout my young years and became a driving force behind my (misguided) decisions in my early twenties. I was fixated on power, thinking that if I couldn’t be loved by a man, then I wanted to be powerful — more powerful than a man. …
The insights I gained after accepting my partner’s proposal
Before meeting my future husband, I was never sure If I wanted a serious relationship or marriage.
In hindsight, it was because the people I dated were never good enough for me, meaning we were fundamentally incompatible. I was also not good enough for myself — my life wasn’t where I wanted it to be yet.
Later when my future husband asked me to marry him, I was in a very different place — saying yes felt natural and fulfilling.
In fact, everything we did together felt natural and fulfilling; any future talks were pleasantly expected. There was no question about our love for each other and where we were heading together. …
