Joy at Leaving a WhatsApp Group

A Tiny Life Moment of coming to an end

Keno Ogbo
Tiny Life Moments
Published in
2 min readMar 20, 2021

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The Moment

“To be honest, I am not really sad that this WhatsApp group is coming to a close. We have all forged strong relationships that does not need this WhatsApp group to thrive. It is up to each of us to stay connected.”

The Reflection

As I read those closing words in a WhatsApp group that was closed recently, I realised that not all ‘ends’ have to be closures. Life could be like the sunbaked surface of a desert floor, millions of tiny cracks running into each other. Some intertwining, others connected and blending. Some running solo. Others running wide. Some losing momentum into tiny fissures and others running free to the next adventure.

We are all cracks running through the land, scarring the surface, each finding their way. Relationships start and end. Connections wane.

But always remember, a crack may end, but it never says goodbye.

I was happy to leave the group, it had served its purpose. Yet it had lingered on with journeys going nowhere in particular. Individuals living separate lives, but bound together in an unwritten virtual contract that no-one dared to break. The factors that brought us together had been served. The motivations that burnt the earth and the deep waters that flowed beneath ran in different directions. But we stubbornly held on, until a brave soul pointed to the pattern we made and said, ‘“It’s beautiful, but it’s done.”

Run free.

Lessons learnt

  • A key part of life is learning to recognise when ‘it is done’
  • Sometimes, we need to find the courage to end a relationship that’s serves no purpose
  • Endings do not have to be goodbyes
  • Call it an end, or call it a new beginning. Life is the meaning you choose to assign
  • Lost connections between friends or in relationships is not a bad thing. It’s just a signal that we have not paid attention to the pattern. It’s time to take an honest look and find a reason to stay, or let go
  • Relationships without connections are a facade. Be brave and challenge it
  • Play your part in relationships, ‘it’s up to us to stay connected’
  • You don’t need to hang unto a dead relationship, keep running free, you will find others along the way

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Keno Ogbo
Tiny Life Moments

A stochastic writer, delving into life, tech and fiction. Writing from her West African background, she tackles old issues with a fresh perspective.