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Do Interventions Help?

Steven Hall of Together We Can sits down with Craig Fluter of West Coast Interventions to learn more about interventions and how they could help your family.

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What is the impact of addiction on the family?

The family is always affected by their loved one’s substance misuse. Addicts are self-centered to the extreme and do not even realize how much the family is affected when in their active addiction. Addiction truly is a family disease whether it affects the family daily from fear of losing their family member to co-dependent and enabling issues.

Family members or those close to the individual struggling with addiction may not even understand what they are doing is not helping. Enabling is not meant to be a shameful word. We may think we are helping but are actually hindering. The more you give an addict, the more they will take. This can be paying their bills, giving them a bed to sleep in, picking them up at all night hours when they call, giving them money, helping them find a job.

Open communication amongst other family members will help as the addict is most likely telling everyone different things to manipulate to get what they want. Now is the time for the family and friends to join together to save a life.

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When do you need to hire an interventionist?

Some individuals become violent, criminally inclined, and unemployable. Some isolate, become quiet and go about their business. Most importantly, and regardless of the addicted individuals’ behaviour patterns, there is always an impact on the loved ones. Also, the addicted individual takes a personal toll.

People who are living with addiction often see no way out. The idea of a radical disruption to their life is scary. If you’ve noticed significant changes in someone you know and there isn’t a reasonable explanation, there might be some sort of chemical dependence at play.

If softer methods haven’t worked, you shouldn’t have to simply accept the predicament that you are in. They should not have to accept the rut they are in. In short, if you’re asking yourself the question “is an intervention necessary?” it most likely is.

The fact that the family and friends are so affected by their loved one’s addiction means that emotions are almost guaranteed to come into the equation. The number one priority is having loved ones seek treatment, and without a professional present, the chances of that happening are significantly diminished.

Above all, this is ultimatum time. It becomes too difficult for everyone to facilitate this process on their own because the addicted family member has learned how to manipulate and control. More importantly, people become hostage to addictive behaviour. After all, addiction is a family disease.

What to expect during an intervention?

Drug and Alcohol interventions are specifically designed to help a loved one. An intervention is a process that sheds light on the destructive behaviours being exhibited by an individual. Moreover, the process addresses the effect those behaviours are having on everyone in their life. The concept is based upon non-violent communication. In other words, the process seeks to portray the harm that the actions of the addict are having on themselves and others.

Ideally, we want the process to open up a dialogue about getting help put an end to the suffering and self-destruction the individual is inflicting on themselves and others. The desired outcome is for the addicted man, woman or teenager to attend an intensive inpatient treatment program.

A professional interventionist will construct a customized plan, implement the course of action, and see it through to completion. Do-it-yourself interventions can disintegrate in a dramatic and rapid fashion.

When someone’s life is at stake, which is almost always the case when we’re dealing with alcohol or drug addiction, give yourself the best chance of success; trust someone with a proven track record who facilitates interventions for a living.

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What if my loved one says no?

This is always a question at the back of everyone’s mind. A professional Interventionist is someone who has walked the life of addiction and now lives in recovery. They know how to communicate with the addict and what to say and not say to be assertive, yet supportive. Professional Interventionists have high success rates of producing the desired results of the addict going to treatment.

In a situation where the addict will not budge, the Interventionist will continue to work with the family. This is the time for everyone to become a cohesive unit and set firm boundaries. The interventionist will explain that there will be serious consequences for the actions of the addict from here on out. In other words, reckless, obsessive, destructive behaviour will no longer be tolerated.

It is still a successful intervention if it takes a bit of time to get the addict into treatment.

How to pick the right interventionist

Any professional Interventionist successful at what they do will have lived a life of addiction. It’s one of their best qualifications to help the next suffering addict.

Having a conversation with a professional interventionist is a great way to learn a bit about their story and how they can help your loved one.

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Together We Can is one of Canada’s leading Drug & Alcohol Treatment Centers serving 300 residents at a time and over 1400 residents per year, located in Vancouver, BC, Canada. https://twcrecoverylife.org

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