Removing the “Fear Lock”

The protector of your reactivity, released.

We have our reactive emotions for a reason. They were implanted by us as a survival strategy and that is one reason they are so persistent; we subconsciously think they are necessary for survival.

Let’s say that you are being abused in some way as a child. You are powerless and vulnerable. You are suffering. There is no way out. You feel like you can’t take it anymore, not just on a physical level but on an emotional level. Your reality is disintegrating under the pressure of the trauma. In desperation you reach out for anything floating by. It could be hatred or apathy or wild violent reactions. You could find any number of emotional responses to the situation. None of them will really help change the situation but they will at least give your mind another avenue of action than total collapse.

Now you are an adult on a healing path, working on releasing a very charged issue and realize that the hatred, apathy or wild violent reaction you found in that moment of suffering is blocking your transformation. You know that you have to heal that issue before you can proceed further down the path of healing. As you get closer to the issue you begin to feel terror. This terror seems wildly out of proportion to the issue you genuinely need to heal. Why do I need hatred? Why do I get so terrified at the prospect of releasing this hatred? It does not make any sense.

This is what I call the ‘fear lock’. Your inner abused child is terrified of losing this reactivity because to the child this is all that is standing in the way of the abuse and of the resulting implosive negative self image. Hatred, in other words, becomes protection. Now, as the adult seeks to heal the issue, fear is generated and hatred (substitute any other issue here) is protected by the fear of how vulnerable we would feel without the hatred.

So, to heal the issue, we have to make it accessible to the healing. We have to first work to remove the fear lock. The way we do this is to first, feel the fear and not resist it. It does no good to try to override this fear because it is a deep fear of annihilation and can not be overridden by the conscious mind. This fear was put in place by you to save your life. It has a history and on a primal level feels like ‘it’ has been keeping you alive all this time. So you need to feel the fear and thank it for the good work it’s been doing all this time. You have to consciously allow it to dissipate before going deeper.

Next, you need to recognize how this fear lock has worked together with the issue to form a matrix of distortion in your life. For example, you were abused in whatever way as a child. You reacted with hatred. You were afraid to drop the hatred because without it you would feel vulnerable to abuse. You then used that hatred on many others in your life. You oozed hatred at times when it wasn’t warranted. You incorrectly secretly accused people in your life of having bad motives, of wanting to hurt you in some way. Your bubble of hatred morphed from psychic protection to you just acting badly.

At this point in the process, the fear may keep popping up. You just need to keep thanking it and your inner child for doing their best to keep you safe. You need to have a dialogue with these other parts of yourself and in that dialogue you need to be the parent. When these inner child issues come up you need to be a patient, loving, understanding parent and issues will dissolve and disowned and misdirected energies will take their natural form and become part of your unified life force. And that’s nothing to fear.