It's kind of funny (except not): even when people know I'm trans, they respond to me as if I'm male (unless they utterly reject my transition). I.e. all the same things you're talking about, primarily BEING LISTENED TO.

And I feel so guilty because there are so few women in (compared to men, that is), and especially in my field (Information Security), and I have to say that I hesitated about transitioning to male just for that reason. I felt I was betraying women. These days, I just try to promote women, as you are doing, but I worry that it's not enough.