Is your Partner After you or your money?

Adejoke Adunni
TRiBL
Published in
2 min readFeb 24, 2023

Happy Valentine’s Day TRiBL Community. It’s the season when people show their partners, friends, and family their love and affection by giving gifts or just by being kind and grateful to them.

It can however be difficult to know for certain if someone is dating you for your money, as people’s motivations are complex and often hidden. Here are a few signs that may indicate that someone is more interested in your wealth than in you as a person.

  1. They show more interest in your financial status than in you as a person.
  2. They frequently ask for money or gifts, or they expect you to pay for everything.
  3. They may become upset or angry if you refuse to give them money or buy them expensive gifts.
  4. They may pressure you to make financial commitments, such as co-signing on loans or making large purchases together.
  5. They may show little interest in your personal life or your interests and hobbies.

It’s crucial to express your worries to your partner if you think they are more interested in your money than you are. They could not be aware of how they are coming across, or they might have different expectations for the connection. It can be an indication that they really want your money if they become defensive or dismissive of your worries. In that circumstance, it’s essential to ensure your financial security and decide whether continuing the relationship is truly worth it.To prevent someone from using you because of your money, consider setting boundaries and discussing your financial expectations early on in the relationship. It’s also important to be mindful of your own behavior and avoid falling into the trap of buying love and affection.

Look for a partner who shares your values and has a similar lifestyle to yours, rather than someone who is solely focused on material things.

Focus on building a strong emotional connection with your partner rather than relying on material things to sustain the relationship.

Remember, a healthy relationship is built on mutual respect, trust, and genuine love. If you suspect your partner is only with you for your money, it’s important to have an honest conversation with them and reassess the future of the relationship.

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