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“F*ck Me, Daddy!”
What women actually mean when they say that
We get into a kind of zone during lovemaking and things come out of our mouth, almost automatically.
Once I was having sex and the guy said to me, “Who’s your daddy?”
I stopped him and said in a serious voice, “My daddy is Randolph Stevens. Why? Do you want to ask him for permission to marry me! Oh gosh! What a great surprise. Yes! Yes, I will marry you.”
The guy was really embarrassed and told me how sorry he was, it just came out.
I get it. We say shit.
But if you really think about it, that question “Who’s your Daddy?” is really a verbal cue for soft submission.
It’s not hard submission.
There are no whips or chains or blindfolds or ball gags. But when a guy asks you who your daddy is, he’s asking you to acknowledge that you are submitting to his manhood.
Are you uncomfortable with that, ladies?
Watch some nature programs, then. Mating seems to involve a kind of power struggle in every species, over and over and over again. The male mounts the female. The species survives — yay! She’s taking one for the team. What a trooper.
Of course, in our civilized modern world, we don’t like to think of soft submission during sex. Sex is supposed to be all about consent, am I right?
But in this relationship — Daddy and daughter — the concept of consent has been replaced by familial obligation and power. By saying “Who’s your daddy, he’s asking you to momentarily transfer the “power” that daughters automatically give to fathers in a family dynamic, so that he might be able to do you more…powerfully?
Which brings me to the subject of this article. One of the things a woman might say is, “Oh yeah, f*ck me, Daddy!”
Is that incest?
I would love to answer no. Because there are lots of reasons it might not be incest. First, “Daddy” is well known hipster slang from the 50s for a “dude”, which itself is 1880s slang for a dandy.
So, maybe she means “Fuck me, dandy dude?”
