How Meditation Makes You a Tantric Lover

Through focus, pleasure, and total presence

How does meditation help bring us to the ecstatic states of tantric lovemaking that we hear about? They seem like two different things: a place of calm and a place of ecstasy. How do they work together?

There are two main concepts that blend together to make this happen. The first concept is using meditation to develop our neutral mind. The second is understanding how this neutral mind takes us to an ecstatic place during lovemaking.

The Neutral Mind

In yoga, we recognize three minds: the positive, negative and neutral. It’s important to know that the positive mind is not “good” and the negative mind “bad”. The positive mind is simply the desire to DO things: learn something, build a bridge, speak your mind, take the job or have spaghetti for supper. The negative mind says: Are you sure? Can we afford it? Remember last time? We just had spaghetti.

In our modern world, our brains tend to be in a constant discussion (often battle) between these two minds. When in balance, they work together seamlessly pondering the pros and cons of a new idea. But when they are out of balance, our desires of the positive mind endlessly battle against our fears in the negative mind leaving us mentally and…