How to Turn Any Conversation into a Connecting Experience
If conversation was a game, what moves would benefit all players?
Do you know the kind of board games where players don’t compete with each other? Instead, they need to collaborate to get the most points.
Conversations are just like those games.
There are two or more players. Everyone makes moves, and other people respond with theirs. A relationship between the players emerges as they keep playing.
The only difference is that, in conversations, sometimes we lose sight of the points. Our score remains low as we stay on the surface, skimming over meaningless topics. We fail to pursue the main reward, which is a sense of connection.
Here’s how to change this — and score points for everyone.
The Golden Rule of Connection
Some people are better conversationalists than others. They intuitively know what questions to ask or what to disclose about themselves to create connection.
The right amount of self-disclosure builds interpersonal closeness — research tells us that much. But it’s not enough to just disclose information. What creates connection is when the speakers allow themselves to be seen without their…
