don’t miss out.
do you ever feel like you’ve missed out?
or are you constantly afraid of missing out?
do you feel like things would be better if you were involved?
or at least things would have been better for YOU if you would have been invited?
FOMO is a real thing.
it happens to me all the time.
i recently found out that i’m a type 2 on the enneagram test.
i did not believe it.
i was pretty certain i was a type 7.
mainly because of the FOMO.
i’m still coming to terms with being a 2, but my third strongest type is a 7,
and i think it’s because i love being a part of the action.
i have to.
the worst thing in the world is not having plans, going home and then seeing on IG all your friends hanging out together without you.
but is it really the worst thing?
now that i know i’m a type 2 “the helper”, my security or growth leans toward a type 4 “the individualist”.
(sorry, from now on, i’ll probably be enneagram obsessed until i figure my life out)
being an individual is actually really hard for me.
i love hanging out with people.
i don’t like being alone.
but as a 2 becomes learns to be healthy it learns to be self-efficient.
self-nurturing.
self-assured.
things i haven’t been when i’m at my worst.
have you ever acted out in anger, frustration or borderline madness because you were afraid you would miss the mark?
one of my worst fears is not being there for the people i love,
but worse than that,
not being able to be there for the people i love because they don’t actually want me there.
how crazy is it we can be totally bonkers in love with someone without them even knowing it?
i have this celebrity crush.
(i mean, she’s a celebrity to me…i’ve mentioned her before…but that’s beside the point)
i truly believed with all my heart…
if i was in LA…
at the right coffee shop…
at the right time…
ordering the right drink…
wearing the right shirt…
…that she’d see me and immediately fall in love with me just like i had fallen for her.
i BELIEVED it to be true.
it was a “done deal” in my head.
like nothing could stop me.
and then the other day, i had a snap back to reality and thought,
if i ever wanted to pursue a REAL relationship with anyone actually around me i’d have to give up on this fantasy i believed in so strongly.
and i was legit like sad about it.
like, wanted to go home and cry sad.
like watch a movie with ice cream, my head in my pillow, it’s raining outside, cry myself to sleep sad.
i think so many of us can be caught in fantasy.
i think because we are upset with our current state, we can then fall in love with a false reality.
i know i’m victim to it.
i do it all the time.
you can’t miss out on something that never happens.
or can you?
i’m coming to realize the more upset i am with missing out,
the more time i spend creating fantasies which will never come true and in turn i actually do miss out on what’s right in front of me…
REAL LIFE.
it’s a dangerous cycle, and i don’t think it’s just me.
as i’ve stated in earlier posts,
i LOVE tv.
i love action, comedy, drama, romance, fantasy.
i love being able to step outside of reality every once and a while and just vegggggggggg.
but too much of it actually hurts me a lot.
i went through a bad breakup last year and one of my coping mechanisms was to purchase one of my favorite shows (CHUCK) and watch all five seasons.
(fun fact, Chuck’s ringtone in the show has been my ringtone for like…idk almost 10 years, in case you cared).
it’s a comedy and i needed the laughs but it also has a beautiful love story in it,
and i just wanted to feel something different than what i was feeling.
so when they laughed,
i laughed.
and when they cried,
i CRIEDDDDD.
but i knew there would come a time where i’d have to step back into reality and make sure i don’t miss out on all that’s in front of me.
and here’s the point for today:
the best is in front of you.
like…it is.
who wants to live their life thinking their best days are behind them?
no one.
maybe your crazy uncle rico who can’t stop talking about the “glory days”,
but is that really how you want to live your life?
not me.
the only thing keeping me alive is KNOWING tomorrow will be better.
and the next day.
and the next day.
and 50 years from now.
every day is better than the last.
why?
because you are here.
you are alive.
you have breath in your lungs.
you have shoes on your feet.
you have a dream inside your brain.
now go make it happen.
don’t miss out on what’s in front of you because
you’re too busy worrying about what’s behind you.
don’t miss out on what’s in front of you because
you’re too worried about what your friends think.
don’t miss out on what’s in front of you because
you “literally” “can not” with “this” person.
like…just…move forward.
whatever it takes.
letting go.
a new routine.
a new gym.
some different friends.
not that club.
a different book.
scripture.
some “me” time.
some family time.
go to the park.
beach.
library.
salad.
literally change it up.
break the script.
stop worrying about what others are doing do something for yourself.
if you’re worried about not being invited to the party,
then throw your own party!
if you want your friend to post about you and tag you on IG,
then post about them first.
if you’re wondering why that person never texts you out of the blue,
then pick up the phone and bring joy to their life.
you be the person you want others to be for you,
and you’ll find out who your true friends are.
real moments don’t always make it to the internet.
real friends have chats that aren’t instagramable.
real friends change your flat tire at 1am.
real friends pray with you when your family is battling cancer.
real friends just want to be there for you.
so i wish that on you this week,
that you would REALLY exist.
that you would dive FULLY into life and enjoy the moment.
that you would be so caught up in the NOW that you wouldn’t be afraid of missing out.
-gb
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