Twin Flames: In Front of the Mirror, There’s No Hiding
A simple practical and profound change will happen if you use this method.
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If you’re looking for a simple, practical, and profound change that can become a daily habit of self-love, just look at your mirror.
Mirror work is a method of connecting with your inner self.
The main purpose of mirror work is to develop self-love, self-care, and build more meaningful relationships with others.
By spending a certain amount of time each day gently talking to yourself, you can establish a more compassionate and forgiving relationship with yourself.
Sit or stand in front of a mirror in your home for five minutes.
Maintain gentle eye contact.
That’s all you have to do.
If you feel embarrassed, uneasy, or emotional, it represents a pattern of self-loathing and self-criticism emerging.
Why is this?
As Louise Hay wrote in her book “Mirror Work”:
The mirror reflects how you feel about yourself.
It immediately makes you aware of where you resist, where you are open and flowing.
It clearly tells you what kind of thoughts you need to change if you want to have a happy and fulfilling life.
In other words, in front of the mirror, there is no hiding.
In front of the mirror, we can see our intimate relationship with ourselves (sometimes even painfully).
Mirror work initially makes us uncomfortable because it exposes our inner criticism in broad daylight.
Suddenly, all the feelings you have about yourself, which you may not have been aware of, surface.
If you haven’t established a genuine self-love with yourself yet, you might tend to believe all the bad things your inner critic whispers in your ear.
As a symbol of truth and clarity, the mirror is one of the oldest and most direct ways of gaining insight into the true self.
Some of the earliest uses of mirrors can be traced back to Anatolia (now known as Turkey) between 6000 and 8000 BC.
These ancient mirrors were made of obsidian, a stone that itself symbolizes psychological purification, shadow integration, and protection.
By consciously using mirrors to enter the inner layers of our being, we gently remove the obstacles and untangle the knots that hinder our growth and evolution.
Indeed, mirror work can deepen our spiritual awakening process.
Another reason why mirror work makes us uncomfortable is that it exposes the vulnerable and neglected parts of our inner selves.
After all, what better opportunity than facing a mirror to finally draw attention to those forgotten parts?
Most of us have many abandoned inner parts, but the most common one we are disconnected from is the inner child.
This is one of the many archetypes (or energy patterns) that make up our personality structure.
The inner child is the part of us that retains a sense of childlike wonder, spontaneity, creativity, and joy.
On the other hand, our inner child also holds many of our primal and core wounds.
Therefore, learning how to interact with and liberate our inner child is crucial.
Mirror work is a very effective way to help us re-establish contact with this delicate part of ourselves.
It’s not uncommon to feel waves of sadness when trying to reconnect with your inner child while looking in the mirror.
You may also experience unexpected excitement or joy.
But usually, it’s common to first experience heavier and more uncomfortable emotions.
Despite the discomfort, these feelings point to deeper work that is alchemical on a subconscious level.
Simply looking at yourself in the mirror and comforting your inner child can be a greatly healing practice and a powerful form of inner child work.
The more emotions you experience, the more a sacred purification and transformation occur.
As the ancient saying goes, the eyes are the mirror of the soul, and mirror work allows you to directly enter this core part of your being.
However, it is not always possible to connect directly to your deeper self.
Most people first experience a harsh inner critic that emerges and acts as a gatekeeper to the deeper psyche.
To get past this harsh gatekeeper, you must learn to disarm it through mindfulness and self-compassion.
At this point, inner work practices such as self-love become crucial for overcoming your insecurities and self-hatred.
But how do you know you’re reconnecting with your soul?
When your face softens, your eyes become warmer and more compassionate, a slight smile appears on your face, and a more relaxed energy fills your body.
You also tend to feel drawn into a hug.
This may sound magical or mystical, but using mirror work as an entryway to your soul is actually very natural.
It’s not an illusion — it’s like coming home, returning to your truest, most complete, and wisest part.
If you want to create your own practice, you might need to keep in mind:
Use affirmations that feel true to you
Spend at least two minutes every day
Do mirror work in private so you won’t be disturbed (or feel the need to stay alert)
Allow yourself to feel whatever happens
Record any noteworthy experiences
In another article, I discussed my understanding of mirror work on a spiritual and psychological level, and I mentioned the source of inspiration for writing that article. Often, interesting inspirations come to our minds in an instant.
Here’s a simple step-by-step guide you can use and adapt to your needs:
- Commit to yourself that over time this practice will bring the most profound changes. It is recommended to spend at least two minutes a day, preferably more than ten minutes.
- Think about the best time of day for mirror work. Mirror work is flexible and can work according to your schedule. Most people prefer doing mirror work in the morning and before bed at night. You can also do mirror work during the day when passing by a mirror. If there’s no mirror at your workplace, you can use the selfie option on your phone. Find a private spot to do this practice if you’re at work.
- Choose or create your own affirmations. You might wonder, why use positive affirmations? Self-affirmations counteract the negative self-talk running through our brains — they also help reprogram our brains. When we use self-affirmations, we affirm what we like about ourselves or the positive things we wish to give ourselves. You might like to spontaneously create your own affirmations based on how you feel while looking in the mirror. For example, if you feel ugly at that moment, you can affirm, “I have a beautiful heart and soul” or whatever feels most true to you. If you feel uncomfortable in front of yourself, you can affirm, “It’s okay to feel uncomfortable, I accept myself.” Try using one self-affirmation each day (or one per week). Here are some examples:
I am learning to love you
I am willing to take care of you
I appreciate your kindness/caring/sincerity
I deserve to be loved
In this moment, I am who I want to be
I love the uniqueness of my body
I am beautiful
I am complete
I am strong
I trust my innate wisdom
I am open and accepting
I believe in myself
Notes on Self-Affirmations:
If you’re creating your own affirmations, make sure you phrase them in a positive way.
The subconscious doesn’t understand negatives and will reverse any negative affirmations.
For example, rather than saying, “I’m not worthless, I am worthy,” say, “I am worthy,” or rather than saying, “I won’t be mean to myself,” say, “I am kind to myself.”
Moreover, the focus of self-affirmations is not to gloss over your feelings.
If you genuinely can’t tell yourself, “I love you,” then don’t say it!
The point is not hypocrisy; the point is to offer yourself sincere love.
If affirmations like “I love and accept you” feel too difficult, focus on gentle affirmations like “I am learning to love and accept you” or “I want to love and accept you more.”
Repeat your affirmations (with emotion)
Repeat your affirmations to yourself at least ten times, either aloud or in your mind.
The more sincerely you repeat your affirmations, the deeper their impact.
Stick with it.
You can increase the repetitions.
When you state your affirmations, it’s important to look directly into your eyes.
You might also like to use your own name as it sends a powerful message to your subconscious.
For example, you might say, “I appreciate your caring (name inserted here),” “I love you (name inserted here).”
Embrace any emotions that arise
If you feel the need to cry, let yourself — you are releasing old ways of being, and this is powerful work!
You might also want to give yourself a hug, which is also highly therapeutic.
It’s very likely that at some point you will feel emotional because the old, frozen pain accumulated over the years is surfacing.
Sometimes the emotions we feel while looking in the mirror come from childhood, especially when they are intense.
If this is the case, comfort your inner child by acknowledging him/her within you while looking in the mirror.
You might want to say things like, “It’s okay, I see you, I understand,” “I appreciate how brave you are [insert name],” and so on.
A Note on Men Doing Mirror Work:
Feeling and expressing emotions may be more challenging for men than for women.
Why?
Men are accustomed to confusing emotional repression with courage.
There’s no bravery in avoiding emotions.
If you’re a man, you might need extra comfort and compassion to work through this stage.
Have some profound and powerful affirmations handy and be willing to see your emotional openness as true strength.
Place your hand on your heart
Sometimes, the feelings from mirror work can be particularly intense.
If you feel overwhelmed by any experience, you are always free to step away and return later.
However, usually, what enters your conscious mind is just the right amount you need to process (after all, this is the role of the psyche and the self).
To help you process any intense feelings, try placing a gentle hand over your heart.
This simple act can help you stay connected to love.
Record your discoveries
Journaling during your mirror work process is essential.
Ignore spelling and grammar; they don’t matter.
Recording your discoveries is to help you mentally integrate what you have learned.
Don’t worry — if you can’t write much, even just a sentence or two will do.
Note down how you felt and any thoughts that arose within you.
It’s not necessary to write a mirror work journal every day, but when you have a particularly significant experience that triggers emotions or insights, it’s important to document it.
By journaling, you’ll be able to track your evolution and progress, having something to look back on and reflect upon in the future.
Mirror work seems simple but is incredibly powerful.
So much healing work can be accomplished by simply looking at yourself in the mirror and expressing self-loving affirmations.
One of the most surprising benefits of mirror work is how it impacts your relationships.
By learning to love yourself more, life becomes more harmonious, and your connection with others flourishes.
Mirror work helps promote and deepen our spiritual awakening, aiding us in gaining clarity and inner revelations.
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