How I’ve learned to ask twice

Beyond the Screen
Sep 12 · 2 min read
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The other day I witnessed a lady get on the bus I was on. She had a student card that typically covers the fare but it didn’t go through, meaning she had to pay the $3.25. Looking bewildered, she tried her pass again. Declined. She asked the driver if he could let it slide just this one time and he said no. So the lady tried tapping her card again, but still it wouldn’t go through.

She didn’t have change on her and she asked the driver again if she would just be able to board, explaining that she just needs to get home and that she’ll get it sorted it out with her school tomorrow. The driver said yes.

What changed between the first and second time of this lady asking to board the bus? Her pass still didn’t work, the driver still had rules to follow, and the bus still wasn’t all that occupied so space wasn’t an issue. It was her asking again, but this time with an explanation. Her explaining her situation to the driver, albeit short and very concise, still created a human connection, appealing to the empathetic nature of the driver. Furthermore, simply asking a second time showed the driver that the ride home meant something to her — maybe it was too far to walk, or maybe she had a pet to take care of. Perhaps she had guests waiting or had an extremely trying day and was too tired to look for another ride. Whatever her reasoning may have been, when you ask a second time, it shows a strong desire for something, which oftentimes makes others more willing to oblige. So now I always ask twice, making sure to be respectful but demonstrating that it’s something I really want. And if they say no a second time? Maybe it just wasn’t meant to be.

-L

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