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The Difference Between Happiness and Pleasure by Dr. Margaret Paul

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Pleasure is a momentary feeling that comes from something external

Pleasure has to do with the positive experiences of our senses

This happiness does not last long because it is dependent upon external events and experiences

We have to keep on having the good experiences in order to feel pleasure

As a result, many people become addicted to these external experiences, needing more and more to feel a short-lived feeling of happiness

Happiness is the result of choosing to be a kind, caring, compassionate and gentle person with yourself and others

Happiness is the natural result of being present in each moment with love and kindness toward yourself and others, rather than with being attached to the outcome of things and trying to control the outcome regarding events and others’ behavior

Let go of control and chose caring instead

Our ego wounded self has been practicing control since we were very little

The moment our intent is to control, our heart closes and we feel alone and anxious inside

Our intent to seek safety and pleasure through controlling others, outcomes, and our own feelings leads to an inner feeling of abandonment and emptiness. We abandon ourselves when we are trying to control our feelings rather than be kind and compassionate with ourselves. Our anxiety and feelings of emptiness lead to more seeking outside ourselves to fill up with pleasurable experiences. The momentary pleasure leads to addictive behavior

As we learn to shift our intent from controlling and not being controlled, to becoming loving to ourselves and others, the heart opens and joy is the result. Deep and abiding happiness and joy are the natural result of operating from the spiritual values of caring, compassion and kindness

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