Published inILLUMINATION·Mar 8, 2024Member-only3 Things Every Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Gets Wrong About a Trauma BondDon’t feel badly — I did, too… — I was in a good place after I left the abusive relationship, completed therapy, and found myself again — until I realized I was a narcissist super magnet. I was living my best life, not even looking for a relationship, but they kept finding me. Even worse, they reached out…Psychology4 min readPsychology4 min read
Published inILLUMINATION·Feb 28, 2024Member-only7 Important Things Most Survivors Don’t Understand About Narcissistic AbuseIf only I knew then what I know now… — Narcissistic abuse is like being broad-sided unexpectedly. The impact is intense and unexpected, the damage extensive. It shakes you to your core. In my work with thousands of narcissistic abuse survivors as a narcissistic abuse recovery specialist, there are seven key things most survivors don’t understand. Heck, as a survivor…Psychology5 min readPsychology5 min read
Published inILLUMINATION-Curated·Updated Feb 1, 2024Member-only3 Ways Past Narcissistic Abuse Accelerates Your Confidence and Business SuccessNarcissistic abuse dramatically impacted my business success, but not in the way you’d think. — I started my business nearly eight years ago, a little over a year after my divorce. I was a medical doctor by training and an entrepreneur at heart. I was finally free to be me, to serve the world as I chose, lit up and on fire, ready to make…Psychology7 min readPsychology7 min read
Published inILLUMINATION·Feb 1, 2024Member-only8 Unscrupulous Ways a Narcissist Controls You Without Your ConsentOnce you see it, you have the power to end it… — “You are so controlling.” His words tore at Jen’s* heart. It felt like her world was spinning out of control, like she was struggling to grab a hold of anything tangible, anything real. The last thing she felt was a sense of control. Yet, here was her husband saying she…Psychology6 min readPsychology6 min read
Published inILLUMINATION·Jan 25, 2024Member-only4 Ways Narcissistic Abuse Tanks Your Self-Confidence (And What You Can Do About It)It’s a lot easier than you think… — Here I was sitting in a restaurant, five hungry kids in tow, the waitress ready to take our order, and I was like a deer in the headlights. I couldn’t decide what to order. I had her start with the kids. That bought me a little more time. My internal…Psychology5 min readPsychology5 min read
Published inILLUMINATION-Curated·Jan 12, 2024Member-onlyIs It Possible to Completely Heal from Covert Narcissistic Abuse?Yes, and the benefits are beyond your wildest imagination… — It felt like my world was spiraling out of control. I was terrified it would never get better. I hit rock bottom — hard. For decades, I’d been the typical victim of covert narcissistic abuse — someone who had no idea they were a victim. Sure, I knew I was…Psychology5 min readPsychology5 min read
Published inILLUMINATION·Dec 27, 2023Member-only4 Simple Ways a Bothered Narcissist Senses You’re HealingThey lack empathy, yet still KNOW… — Years ago, I was floored. As if, out of nowhere, my life turned on a dime. New, amazing opportunities seemed to be coming out of the woodwork. It was finally happening. My dreams were coming true — until three of the most prominent people in my life started wreaking havoc. …Psychology5 min readPsychology5 min read
Published inILLUMINATION·Dec 20, 2023Member-onlyThis One Thing Is a Narcissist’s Greatest FearIt drives EVERYTHING they do… — I had no idea the lies ran so deep. This realization took my breath away. The truth was so obvious, so easily proven. There was so much credible evidence. Yet the people I thought were my family and friends didn’t see it. I hadn’t yet learned about flying monkeys. The…Psychology3 min readPsychology3 min read
Published inILLUMINATION·Updated Dec 14, 2023Member-only5 Amazingly Simple Ways to Manipulate a NarcissistIt’s really all about your definition… — Her jaw hit the floor as her ex-husband said it. “He’s got the gift of manipulation,” speaking proudly of their 9-year-old son. Sarah* was horrified. As she told me the story, I could hear her distress. I could hear her fear that it was true. And I could hear her…Psychology5 min readPsychology5 min read
Published inILLUMINATION·Dec 2, 2023Member-only3 Life-Changing Responses Guaranteed to Confuse a NarcissistAnd their anticipated response… — Confusing a narcissist for the first time was kind of like the first belly laugh to a baby…unintentional, totally unexpected, interesting, amusing, and a little scary all at the same time. You see, when I was in the midst of the abuse, I found comfort in the predictability of their…Psychology4 min readPsychology4 min read