Preparing for a Support Group

Support groups can offer a healing space for survivors to connect with one another and help address feelings of isolation following an experience of harm. They can offer an opportunity for people to share personal insights about coping techniques, their triggers, or their experiences without worrying if others will understand or relate.

Research shows that participating in a support group can decrease feelings of isolation, stigma, and shame. Following an incident of violence, many survivors often feel as though they are “different” from others. Support groups normalize the process of reacting to and then healing from trauma. They can also let survivors expand their support network, share information, learn new coping strategies, and find hope.

While support groups can offer a safe space for many, joining may be intimidating. Here are some things to keep in mind when determining if joining a support group is the right decision for you.

Be prepared for discomfort.

Getting the most out of a support group requires honesty. Sharing struggles with other people may be a new experience, but taking risks emotionally can let one grow and learn. It is understandable that speaking about an experience of violence would be uncomfortable, but discomfort brings growth. If you feel triggered, overwhelmed, or as though you want to harm yourself, speak with the group facilitator immediately for support.

Be ready to support other group members and yourself.

Extend compassion to yourself and fellow group members. During group, try to offer support to fellow group members by making affirming comments or facial expressions. Practice self-awareness to notice when you may need more support as well and keep a practice of self-care outside of the group. If you need support with this, talk to the facilitator or other group members.

Try to attend the group regularly and remember your reasons for joining. If you feel that the group is not a good fit for you, remember your reasons for joining and assess if you want to continue. It is okay to take a step back or change to a different support group if needed.

Realizing you need support is hard and it can often be harder to ask and receive help. Even if you decide to join, attending a support group for the first time can be an accomplishment in itself. Joining a support group is a brave decision for yourself and others.