Introverts Usually Don’t Smell Scorched
So what if I like to put a little distance between my thoughts and the potentially scathing words that could inevitably come spewing out of this pie-hole of mine?
I’m an Enneagram 5 (The Quiet Specialist).
I’m a wise-ish midlifer who’s seen and heard enough to know what’s up.
Introverts have really come into their own as of late. We’re the dark horses among all life-livers.
Make no mistake, we’re welcomed as creatives and in creative jobs, but not until recently has our mysterious and quiet demeanor been appreciated in the real world.
I maintain that we’re terribly misunderstood.
Is something wrong? People ask.
I never know what you’re thinking, they remark
You’re so quiet. If I had a dollar for every time I heard that I’d have many, many dollars.
I’ll call us introverts: the pausers.
For the sake of this conversation, the non-pausers would be the extroverts.
They get an awful lot of praise and attention, and I guess I can see why.
It’s because, in order to get anywhere, it seems like you need to be a boss, speak your mind, stand your ground, make your point, and all of the other shit that has historically been a key identifier of successful people.
Disclaimer: I’m not saying that all introverts are pausers and all extroverts are non-pausers, I’m drawing a distinction based on a hasty generalization.
I can’t believe I’ve gone decades feeling inferior to my extroverted, non-pausing counterparts. In life, and at work.
Now that I’m older and wiser, I see things more clearly.
And I’m calling bullshit on it.
It’s a common differentiator between the introvert and extrovert communication styles.