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Unfaithful: Perspectives on the Third-Party Relationship
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The Worst Discovery of Your Life
The Cheated-On
Personal Stories
What I Learned From Being Cheated On
What I Learned From Being Cheated On
5 truths I’m passing on to you, dear reader
Finn Lang
May 11, 2021
Recovery After Infidelity is Possible If You Do This.
Recovery After Infidelity is Possible If You Do This.
Cheating happens, how you handle it may save your marriage.
Becky Whetstone, Ph.D. Marriage & Family Therapist
Jun 4
The Real Reason the Mistress Cheats with Your Husband
The Real Reason the Mistress Cheats with Your Husband
She doesn’t know this … but neither do you.
P. D. Reader
Sep 22
Just How Severe Was the Infidelity?
Just How Severe Was the Infidelity?
Understanding the Different Levels of Betrayal
Theresa Winn
Oct 25
5 Ways I Set the Stage For My Spouse’s Cheating
5 Ways I Set the Stage For My Spouse’s Cheating
In retrospect, I know that, in many ways, I set the stage for my spouse’s cheating.
Mitzi Bockmann
Jul 27
Why Am I Crying for My Lost Husband?
Why Am I Crying for My Lost Husband?
I thought the tears would be for me.
Martha Manning, Ph.D.
Mar 4, 2023
Why Does A Cheater Choose The Lover That They Do?
Why Does A Cheater Choose The Lover That They Do?
Unveiling Hidden Needs in Relationships
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Mar 2
Beyond Blame and Shame: A Compassionate Approach to Healing After an Affair
Beyond Blame and Shame: A Compassionate Approach to Healing After an Affair
Navigating the Path to Affair Recovery with Empathy and Understanding
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Nov 17, 2023
Married to a Cheater — Why Did I Stay So Long?
Married to a Cheater — Why Did I Stay So Long?
The Way It Happened To Me
Ellen A
Sep 8, 2022
Four Years Post Affair
Four Years Post Affair
Where am I now?
Heavenlyevil
Oct 29
How You Handle the Affair Matters
How You Handle the Affair Matters
Building Resilience and Healing After an Affair
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Dec 4, 2023
How to Know When It’s Not a Genuine Apology
How to Know When It’s Not a Genuine Apology
It’s normal to disagree in relationships — but how you make up is the best way to see if they truly respect you.
Michelle Love
May 26, 2023
The Day I Discovered My Wife Was Cheating
The Day I Discovered My Wife Was Cheating
How Good Friday Marked the Death of My Marriage
Much Reassembly Required
Apr 11, 2022
Blaming Your Cheating Spouse Should Come with a Warning Label
Blaming Your Cheating Spouse Should Come with a Warning Label
How Shifting from Blame to Responsibility Can Heal Relationships and Rebuild Trust
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Jul 11
Is Your Partner’s Mental Health Behind the Betrayal?
Is Your Partner’s Mental Health Behind the Betrayal?
Connections Between Mental Illness, Brain Damage, and Infidelity
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Aug 8
I Live in a Sexless Marriage
I Live in a Sexless Marriage
Yes, they exist.
H
Sep 21, 2022
9 Myths About Infidelity That Keep You Stuck in Your Suffering
9 Myths About Infidelity That Keep You Stuck in Your Suffering
Unravel the truth behind infidelity myths and discover the real complexities of affair dynamics.
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Mar 15
A Letter to the Woman I Betrayed
A Letter to the Woman I Betrayed
I had an affair with your husband. How cliché. Yet, I wonder what you’re like. When all the fear and the walls are stripped away — and all…
Another Millennial Woman
Oct 4, 2023
Are You One of the Women Who Can Tell Me About My Husband?
Are You One of the Women Who Can Tell Me About My Husband?
There are some women who have gotten to see a side of my husband that I have not.
Sarah Clover
Sep 23, 2023
Betrayal as Abuse: The Hidden Pain of Affairs
Betrayal as Abuse: The Hidden Pain of Affairs
Unmasking the Trauma and Deception in Infidelity
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Nov 1, 2023
9 Things that Make Men Vulnerable to Having an Affair
9 Things that Make Men Vulnerable to Having an Affair
I believe that no one sets out to have an affair. That affairs are things that, more often than not, result from issues entirely unrelated…
Mitzi Bockmann
Jun 28
My Ex-husband Has Moved in with Me — Isn’t Life Something?
My Ex-husband Has Moved in with Me — Isn’t Life Something?
Change keeps creeping up and biting me in the ass
Martha Manning, Ph.D.
May 17, 2023
I Never Believed I Could Fall in Love with My Ex-Husband’s Dog
I Never Believed I Could Fall in Love with My Ex-Husband’s Dog
Attachment transcends marital status and respiratory distress
Martha Manning, Ph.D.
Jan 24
Understanding the Root Problem Behind an Affair
Understanding the Root Problem Behind an Affair
Peeling Back the Layers
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Nov 24, 2023
“Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater” Is Killing Your Marriage
“Once a Cheater, Always a Cheater” Is Killing Your Marriage
Embrace Change and Transform Your Relationship
Jeff Murrah, LPC, LCDC, CMNCS
Jul 23
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