5 Sad Lessons Your Kids Learn When You Have an Affair

I know that you might feel like an affair is between grown ups and something that kids will never know about but, if they do, the lessons that your kids will learn if you have an affair are quite significant and life changing.

Parents work hard to set a good example for our children. Parents model kindness and honesty because they want their kids to be healthy and happy. And when they go and cheat, something that most likely goes against everything they have taught their kids. And, with the discovery of an affair, their parental modeling falls apart.

So, if you are considering having an affair, or are in one and wondering if it’s worth it, considering how it might affect your children is a really good idea.

Here are 5 sad lessons your kids learn when you have an affair.

#1 — That they don’t need to self-soothe.

From almost the moment they are born, we try to teach our children to self-soothe. We let them cry it out when they are falling asleep. We teach them how to manage their emotions and how to work through sadness or disappointment. It’s not an easy thing to teach, especially by adults who struggle to do so themselves.

I have a client who was miserable in her marriage. She had been for years and hadn’t been dealing with it…