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7 Reasons Dating a Married Man Who is Separated is a Huge Waste of Time

After all, his marriage is over — why not?

One thing is for sure — the availability of great men to date seems to be somewhat limited. As a result, women are often open to dating a married man who is separated.

Well, let me tell you — dating a man who is not yet divorced is a REALLY bad idea. Yes, he might seem available, but he really isn’t.

I know — You don’t want to hear this, but good for you for opening this article and reading it. You will be glad you did!

#1 — He might think that he is ready to date, but he isn’t.

I know that, when my ex-husband left me, I was devastated. I felt abandoned and not worthy. I was lonely and believed that no one would ever love me again. Within months, I was on a dating site. On the first date I met a wonderful man and we, in spite of his reservations that I wasn’t yet divorced, started dating. It was amazing at first — and then it was a disaster.

I truly felt like I was ready to date, but I wasn’t. I was fresh out of a twenty-year marriage. I was struggling with the pain of abandonment. I hadn’t yet processed what had happened in my marriage. I was desperate to be in a new relationship so that…

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Unfaithful: Perspectives on the Third-Party Relationship
Unfaithful: Perspectives on the Third-Party Relationship

Published in Unfaithful: Perspectives on the Third-Party Relationship

Home of the most thoughtful and clarifying pieces on infidelity on Medium. Essays by and for all three corners of the third-party triangle.

Mitzi Bockmann
Mitzi Bockmann

Written by Mitzi Bockmann

I’m a certified NYC based Life and Love Coach who works with people to help them find, and keep, happiness and love.

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