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There’s No One Perfect Couple’s Therapy
And it’s a terrible idea to try to do it yourselves
Editor’s Note: Welcome to the first article of our new series on marriage therapy for infidelity. We hope to have people who have been through various schools of couples’ therapy for infidelity write a review of their experience with a particular tradition or method. First up: Martha Manning, Ph.D., who writes here about her experience with a Jungian therapist after her husband’s infidelity and their subsequent divorce. Thank you, Dr. Manning!
A heavy load
Ever since wretched, recurrent, dangerous depressions hit me in my early thirties, I have been in individual therapy. Although none of my therapists “cured” me, I believe they were instrumental in helping me to save my life. I didn’t realize it then, but it is now clear that regardless of their own marital status, they respected mine, a critical element of my work with them.
My husband, who, like me, was a therapist, avoided therapy until his sixties, shortly before he left me. The irony is not lost on me.
Depression was unpredictable and vicious, but it was not the “culprit” in destroying my marriage, and my marriage did not cause the depressions.
